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writes:Why does my boyfriend laugh at some of the stupid things I say. I know I'm a bit ditzy but he makes it worse; it makes me feel more stupid and lowers my self-esteem. Especially when it gets serious it upsets me so much......like the time we were talking about having sex (my first time, but we havn't done it yet) and he says it's 'me' putting our relationship to a standstill. But I cannot help it if I'm so nervous and SCARED. I feel so stupid, and it's pathetic me worrying about sex and how much it'd probably hurt when I do do it. Sometimes he laughs when I say something like What if it hurt A LOT?"Why is he like that? How can I talk to him about it properly? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe says he laughs because he find me funny, I know I'm not as intelegent as him (mostly because he's older) and it just gets to me when he thinks it's funny...sometimes we have conversation and I ask a dumb question (I truly don't know the answer to the question) but he laughs thinking that I know and that I'm only messing when I'm not.
I have spoken to him about it and he says he's sorry "but I just can't help it babes, I love you"
What's that suppose to mean?
I can't stop him laughing. Can I?
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Have you ever thought that it seems like he is always laughing at you because he finds you entertaining and he doesn't mean it in a negative manner. He probably finds it amusing some of the things you say. I wouldn't take it so personal but now if he is being verbally abusive then it would be a problem. He is a man he probably just wants to have sex already and isn't thinking of what it will actually mean to you, you tell him if he doesn't start listening and respecting your feeling he won't be getting any at all so he won't have to worry about it hurting lol. You put your foot down and give him lessons on how to act and if he doesn't straighten up then don't waste your time giving him any and you can save it for your next boyfriend.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Your bf is a jerk, Its probably his way of dealing with his disatisfaction with the relationship, you probably cant imagine how bad he wants to have sex with you and putting it off is frustrating him. But its your body you dont have to do anything you dont want to do and your bf needs to understand that. You should have this conversation with your bf tell hom how you truly feel about his lughing and ridiculing you if you cant talk about this with him you shouldnt be sleeping with him.As for the sex you shouldnt be so worried your body is designed for it theres a good chance it will hurt but its not like breaking your leg if its more then you can bare tell your partner to stop, more then likely your partner knowing its your first time will be gentle.If your mentally ready to have sex your body will physically ready itself some gells and things can help you should read a few books on it.Dont jump directly into sex take it slow forplay etc get used to exposing your self to your partner. try using a dildo to get your self used to penetrationyou shouldnt be afraid and you should be with some one that cares about your feelings.
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