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writes:Dear Cupid,Around 3 years ago, i was with a girl which i didn't know. She was a friend of my friend in school, I ended up talking to her, and we met up. A few days later we were still meeting up, and going out for the day. I asked her out and she said yes. We were going out for around about a month, possibly abit longer (4-5 weeks) I split up with her, because it was abit of trouble actually meeting up, because of how long it took both of us to meet up. It was around 60 minute walk. i ended up finishing her because of another girl, and i couldn't cheat on her. A year went past, and we ended up talking again, We met up and again, we started going out for around a week this time. i was finished for someone else. Another two years went by, at this year of now. Around a month ago, We met up and we started going out again. I knew that people in young teens usually go threw different stages of their life, Including acting hard like being a "charv" or even other different kinds. But i knew she was going threw this stage, and even her friends which are abit more mature than her, they told me that she was. Ever since i heard that, i noticed why she was finishing me, but she seems different and more mature now, and it seems that she has moved on from them stages.About a month ago, when we were with each other. On alot of the nights, she would love me to say the words "i love you." but on one of the nights, She stopped me, and looked straight into my eye and said "(my name), Im so glad im back with you, I love you." and i responded to that, But there was something different about that time she said that.Ive been looking into body language, and also meanings of alsorts of things now, but i keep thinking about her, and i dont know why, I still love her, and she said that she still loves me, but she also says that it feels wierd.at this stage, Im confused and i dont know what to think about her. She wont tell any of her friends the main reason, because i see that reason as very different and hard to believe. Im so confused because i've spent alot of time looking at bodylanguage, for the clusters and groups of signals that go together, and also the leakages.But why do you think we keep getting back together? We've got together twice now, and I dont know why we do it. I get told that "She's so glad to be with me" and i get finished a few days later. Ive also heard about Girls do that to make themselves feel loved, but Why do you think we keep getting back together?PS: sorry about the mass information.Thanks.
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reader, luckystars88  +, writes (9 September 2009):
make sure you dont confuse love with infatuation. and even if you do love each other it doesnt mean that either of you have experienced enough in life and relationships to know if it will work. the older you get and the more experience you have will change your outlook on things... but if it starts to feel like mind games (like giving just enough to keep you around but not enough to be serious) then dont get too close. especially at your age keep your focus on yourself and what makes you happy and what will make you happy in the future. Life's short so live it to the fullest without worrying about petty girls that cant decide if they want you or not. it could be that she is just keeping her walls off so she doesnt get hurt or maybe she just needs to experience more before you two get together. maturity comes after time and definatly after high school. dont get too serious and end up in a rut. have fun with things instead.. your probably getting together all the time cuz your attracted to eachother for one reason or another and it becomes comfortable. so keep it casual and see if it grows from there. if not. so be it. move on
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