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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.We see each other about once every 2-3 months. When we see each other and have sex, he doesn't last long, only about 3-5mins. But after a few days of having sex for 2-3 times per day, he will last longer. However, I've noticed that when I cum more than one or two times during our intercourse, he cannot climax. This has happened several times during the past few visits. It is only the first or second day of our visit and during sex I will cum a lot and am very wet, but he cannot climax and we just stop. He has blamed it on him being tired, but he will climax if I'm not as wet.We are both in our mid 30's. Why do you think he cannot climax when I'm very wet? Does he not like the wetness or maybe odor? I don't have foul odor, but it's normal sex odor. We do wash the sheets immediately after I climax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2018): Seems to me that if you want him to climax even when you are very wet, the obvious thing to try is switching to something else until you get a bit less wet, like for instance you give him oral (or 69 unless that would make you very wet too).
It's also possible that he doesn't mind not climaxing those times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2018): Nothing to see here folks. Move along.There is no problem. He can orgasm and usually does it too soon. After several days of 2-3 times a day sex, he doesn't orgasm quickly or not at all. In the first place, if you ever break up with him, I'm available. LOLSeveral days of 2-3 times of sex is draining on a man's system. Just because he doesn't orgasm, does not mean he isn't enjoying it. Orgasms are great but so is everything leading up to it. Him having sex 9-12 times over a four day period has desensitized his penis a bit and all his fluids, in that area, are fairly depleted. Your vagina being more slippery is providing less stimulation than before to a desensitized penis. For God's sake woman, don't fret. It has nothing to do with your lady parts or it's aroma. Otherwise, he would not be having the 2-3 minute orgasms early in the "visits". When a woman is very slippery (when wet), to me, that is even more exciting. It means she is really turned on and enjoying the sex. Orgasm or not, that would be an ideal situation. For me at least. Again, there is no problem and in fact, you have an enviable sex life and so does he. If you ever break up, email me at Imjealous at reallyjealous dot com. (Please don't get mad at my joking but the last time I had sex three times in a day was before I met my wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2018): 40 year old male here, with experience in your problem.Over wanking can cause problems- but that is not the only possibility, so don't go assuming it's because he plays with himself too much. The problem is in fact how you described- things are a bit too wet.You see, sex is a little more complicated for men than you might realise. Orgasm is achieved in more ways than just one, but the real route is stimulation of the glans- the head of the penis. For this to work, a little friction is needed. Luckily, it's highly a sensitive area, and the combination of the structure of the vagina and the type of fluid the body creates as lubrication don't get in the way of that, normally.When things get a bit too wet down there, the sensation is lessened as friction is reduced. The head of the penis stops feeling so much, sometimes feeling nothing at all. If he's circumcaised, this is more possible as the head is less sensitive to start with.I'm a circumcised guy and this has happened to me often. It can be really frustrating as sometimes it all goes south and once my penis has lost sensation, there's no getting it back. But, with a long term partner, all you need to do is talk about it and find another way to finish him off- if he really wants that.But don't look for blame or fault, no one is too blame. It's one of the things with the human body- sometimes it works a little too well.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 March 2018):
 If he is used to a "non-greased" tight hand (as in wanking himself off) when you are NOT there, it might be why the extra moisture makes it harder for him to finish. Even if you ARE tight, it doesn't FEEL as tight when you are super wet.
Why not have some tissue/dry or damp wash-cloth by the bed and wipe yourself here and there to remove some of the excess wetness? If it doesn't make it painful or less pleasurable for you?
I don't think it's him not LIKING the wetness (after all you are wet because you climaxed and are aroused.) And I don't think it's any odor that prevents him from climaxing - I think he is just WAY too used to using a hand with tight NON wet grip to pleasure himself.
So he is "conditioned" to prefer or "need" that tight dry-ish hand in order to climax.
Another fix is for him to STOP jerking off so much with a dry-ish hand. Though that might not work.
And go get a check up, if you question your odor at all.
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