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writes:I often see posts on here from women with smaller breasts who feel that they wished they had larger breasts. Whilst I believe allWomen should be encouraged to feel good about their bodies I often feel disheartened by the responses that put down larger breasts in order to make the poster feel better The most common argument seems go be that larger breasts sag more over time. Is this such a horrible thing . Does that then mean larger breast are in fact inferior . Why can't both be seen as equally beautiful and not needing comparison regardless of size of perkiness?Personally I never saw larger or smaller as better just both versions of the female body but these comments tell the poster not to worry as they will look better than the larger breasted women over time This leaves me feeling very depressed. Are larger breast seen as ugly when they sag . Do men only want perky large breasts or perky small breasts. Seems the average larger breasted women is actually seen as ugly by most men now days especially as she gets older
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reader, bub86  +, writes (19 October 2015):
Hi, I think there are always a lot of shallow men, but as one writer wrote men see the face first. Some men may have preferences, but most will be happy with what you have. I am a man who just really loves breasts of all kinds, they mean the world to me. Be happy with your breasts and body and keep them and you healthy. And please do not ever change your body to satisfy some dumb man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2015): First of all, I am saddened by the insecurity that women have over such issues. Men on the other hand would not be even thinking about how much their hair would be judged. Men want everything... Women are the same way ... but women have societal restrictions which may not allow them to act on it.That's the difference.Big boobs, small boobs everyone has to face humiliation for the way they look at some point because of someone else's view point about it...Why worry about what someone else thinks about you.. the only person who you should be listening to is yourself.sometimes it may happen that what someone is saying resonates with how you are feeling and you may end up tearing yourself downunderstand that whatever you are is the best you can be today, tomorrow and the next day. Accept yourself. There's no better and worse... it is what it is. If someone makes you feel bad about you always tell them how you feel about their "opinion" and let it beAnd who ever started this thing about going under the knife... geez you may have your reasons but personally to go under the knife so that someone likes you better is sort of extreme. Not judging if you do, but do it for the right reasons.Not cos your hubby likes small perky boobs oh good lord.Even if you get them done 8/10 chances that he will always bang a lovely girl who throws herself at him even if you devote yourself to him. So never do it for those reasons. Do it for the right reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2015): Believe me when I tell you from a guys point of view,the first thing that draws a guy's attention is a woman's face, and that doesn't have to be a classical beauty face. It has to be attractive to that particular guy which differ from one guy to another. The rest are only parts of the package.Personally I have been with only small or medium size breasted women and their size has never been an issue.However I guess big chested women do draw more attention than others.Breast size is never an issue.Just concentrate on finding the style of makeup and hairdo that goes with your face features.One more advice also. Keep your weight down.Nothing spoils a beautiful face like fatness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2015): I have small breasts. I mean small, not even a double A. And this is the first time I'm replying to a question about breasts. What you got is what you've got. If you can accept that, WONDERFUL!!If not, women have options these days with surgery, amazing. If you can create something that makes you happy, WONDERFUL!!But if we're talking about what men want, once and for all: WHO CARES! You can find men either way! Men happy with large breasts, men who love small breasts, men who are mature and understand the women they love will AGE and get wrinkles, saggy breasts, bent backs and age spots! I cared my breasts were small when I was in high school because there are immature rude people who make it a big deal. I got older and stopped caring and to this day (I'm in my thirties) I haven't had a problem dating and finding men who love me and whom I've loved back. I'm sure the guys who wanted big boobs didn't bother with me, so I never noticed, and therefore it was no skin off my back. I'm sure if you just live your life happy enough with what you have, you won't notice the difference either! Try it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2015): Of course men like big boobs too, I think I know which question you're referring to. But it was a question regarding somebody who feels not good enough because of her small boobs, I replied as I'm quite envious of her being the size and figure she is. I'm envious not because of what men think or what they find attractive. Its what id feel happy with, id love to wear whatever I want but cant because of my boobs. It doesn't bother me what some stranger thinks of my boobs. I date or get in a relationship with men who like my boobs and like my figure.Who cares about what strangers think? You obviously know a lot of men love big boobs too, my answer on the question you're thinking about I just pointed out that there are lots of pluses to having small boobs that she doesn't realise.Yep my boobs will sag and I'm not looking forward to it but thats life and when you get older other men your age will probably also get a big belly, saggy moobs lol, wrinkly skin. But as you get older you still find people you're own age attractive, wrinkly saggy skin and all. But with age things like that don't matter so much.Loads of people like huge boobs and you probably know that. So don't be upset about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2015): It astonishes me for as long as the human race has been around, that people still feel they have to live up to standards that really have little to do with the realities of life. There are people who have insecurities of all sorts, and that is just a part of life and humanity.
Breast-size and penis-size are ridiculous areas of varying opinions and amount to nothing but preference and taste.
I like sugar and cream in my coffee, and some guys like it black. Who gives a rat's ass who likes one or the other more? It has no bearing on the fact that we like coffee all the same!!! Big melon boobs, or little lemon boobs, or just nipples; you're a woman, and men like women. Some women like women too! I'm gay, and I like women! Just not for sex!
Everyone has a fantasy, but like dreams, they are not real.
Yes, sometimes dreams come true; but knowing human-nature, people are still not satisfied. They will be ungrateful if they had everything they ever wanted. There is always someone out there who will find some body-part to be ashamed of. Their color, butt, their legs, arms, belly, navel, ankles, height, feet, hands, nose, head...on and on and on. We were not designed to be all the same size, shape, and color. It disgusts those with birth-defects, amputations, and disfigurements to no end about people and their stupid vanities. Be thankful to God (or whomever or whatever you worship) you are healthy and whole! Period!
No, I have never been one of those telling any woman that big breasts will sag. If they do, that's a sign of aging and we will all have to deal with body changes due to aging. Aging will not stop, because some of us want to be young forever; and some stupid-assed pea-brained men want perfection when they look like hell warmed-over themselves. Throw in the pea-brained women who worry about such f*cked-up opinions!!!
If you adopt the philosophy that you are blessed and pleased with what nature has graced you with, none of this bullsh*t will even matter; because people of good hearts, strong character, and higher range of thought; don't put all their concerns into the size of their genitals and breasts. It's your health and mental stability you ought to be more concerned about... and thankful for!
People create their on anxieties, and they are exacerbated by the media who study and feed on our faults and vanities for marketing purposes. Beauty is still only skin deep, and you still get whatever genes design you to be. You can't please everyone; so you please yourself. Be healthy, happy, and find one man who loves you for who you are. Plain and simple.
Let's make some sense here. You'll never date all men anyway. Just the those who are interested in and attracted to you in particular. What most men like isn't really any one woman's responsibility to fulfill. Every woman has the type of man they want and dream of; but don't always get to fulfill each and every detail and design of their imaginary dreamboat. Yet someone comes along and they (the smart ones) still feel joyous that they've found real love. They are the ones who live happily ever-after. Dummies wallow in self-loathing over their imperfections; and hate God and nature that they didn't come-out of the womb a figure of worship. Too bad! They develop mental issues over it. If you are a victim of war and injury, it is expected and understood that a drastic change in appearance can be traumatic. You've lost something, or something was severely
damaged. They've lost function and disfigurement was not their fault or natural! Not for those who hate their mirrors and worry about the opinions of others!
Life's just too short! We were all born this way!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (17 October 2015):
 This seems to be more about your opinion than a question. However if you want someone else's view. I like women to look natural and in proportion.
I can understand if some larger women want reductions. It makes sense. I see no virtue in going to extremes with increasing size.
A lot can be done with the right bra to make the most of what a woman has.
So basically I believe keep things as natural as possible unless it proves to be some kind of handicap. It's not worth going under the knife purely for vanity. But it isn't my choice is it?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 October 2015):
 Just be glad you're not a guy who worries about penis size! Women can get surgery if they don't like how they look. It's not so easy for a guy to allow "the knife" anywhere near their manhood.
Also, don't worry about how guys see you anyways! Time catches up to all of us! Sagging tends to happen to men AND women! Just stay healthy, wear a support bra (or don't!), and be comfortable with who you are! You're not in competition with anyone, and if you're wanting companionship, go with a guy who loves you for YOU!
You're not 20 years old anymore, but that doesn't mean you can't play with the cards you're dealt. Having been around longer, you're much the wiser.
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