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writes:Why do so many girls claim they're bi when none of them actually act on it? I mean, try showing your so-called bi girlfriend a sex movie and she gets all offended bc you're "cheating in front of her". Isn't she supposed to like it if she likes girls? I've even tried getting them to just plain check out girls with me and they get all mad! Why? If they really liked girls, they'd look! I suggest getting a 3 way and they either have no bi friends - just gay guy friends- or they do have bi friends but won't have sex with friends or talk sexually about them. So why bother saying they're bi? Is this just a bait and switch? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2023): Maybe she just doesn't like porn, or watching it with her boyfriend. Some ladies feel porn is just a way of cheating in a technicality. It's visual but not physical; but in their minds a woman you look at that isn't her is stealing your desire and attention from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2023): A lot of young ladies use the bi label although most of them have never dated a woman they way they've dated a man - maybe they've kissed a few girls at a drunken Frat party or two. As for actually, seriously dating someone with the hopes of marriage? Not so much, even guys. At this age, most of the girls you're dating (Probably your age range or younger) are just dating for fun or temporarily, they're not really attracted to girls, they just THINK they are due to a few fleeting experiences and a few non-serious crushes. They hold onto the label because it makes them feel worldly, experienced, and progressive and quite often they like guys to like the IDEA of them with a girl. But they don't really want to follow through bc there no real attraction. I'd test the waters like you have been and if they react the way they always do, when you're alone (don't call them out in front of people) ask if that means there's no chance of a threeway or talk of girls sexualy or looking at girls etc... If they say that's the case, say "Then I'll respect that boundary as long as you respect mine, STOP SAYING YOURE BI. You're not. You're bi CURIOUS and if you're monogamous, then that means you don't need to be flirting with ANY male or female besides me. You don't need to be alone with any other male or female- you have ME. If you do, I'll just assume you're advertising that you're free for the taking and I will no longer need to work for you. If you don't like that, that means there's no more flirting, attention, cuddles, deep conversations, free meals, presents or one-on-one anything with me. Maybe for others, but not for YOU." Honestly? She'll dump you but after that if she calls herself bi, correct her in front of everyone. Call her out! Some dude wants to know if he can date her say, "date? Why bother, she's broken in and she's free for the takjng" it'll just make things more annoying for her but maybe she'll eventually learn her lesson
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