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41-50,
*skimoprincess
writes:I have been going out and living with my boyfriend for three years and we recently got engaged. Our sex life is fantastic, and we do anything and everything sexually. We do some very filthy things and most of the time our sex is like a hardcore porn movie, which both of us like, thus we do it, we even have our own collection of porn, most of which i bought! My boyfriend works hard and comes home to me every night and we spend all of our free time together, which we very much enjoy, sometimes we will go out together and he'll have a beer with a mate for an hour whilst i do the shopping but that is it. This is going to sound very odd, but none of mine nor his mates will accept the fact he doesnt masturbate (without me)and vice versa and that we dont have fantatsies about celebrities etc. He doesnt keep secret boxes under the bed, i know where every thing in our house is, he doesnt drive, thus has no car, no garden, thus no shed to keep any pervy material in. I find this digging out of what I consider a lovely sexually honest realtionship, really cruel. Should I be concerned that we have a strange relationship, I just shrug off everyone comments and he does the same, but it upsets me that my girlfriends keep telling me hes lying and fantasises over other girls. Why do they care so much, to keep pushing this issue?
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Oh, I know you don't bring it up, no worries there. But when THEY do, they get no response from you but a satisfied, bird-that-ate-the-canary smile. That's it. Refuse to talk about it at all; you have nothing to need to defend to anyone. Be with them, or don't, but don't talk. Thanks for the 5-stars!
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reader, eskimoprincess +, writes (7 November 2007):
eskimoprincess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you Asexy.... trouble is I dont bring the issue up ever, its something people bring up on their own when they have had too many drinks....I completley agree with the jealousy bit, and you have really put my mind to rest, especially seeing that your a guy!!! I actually think i should have a bit of a friend overhaul as real friends wouldnt want to hurt you like that. thanks again, five star reply!!!
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reader, Asexy +, writes (7 November 2007):
They care because either they don't understand or they're jealous (my guess is the latter). Or they're self-righteous prigs who can't stand the thought of anyone else being happy if they're not (not saying that's the case, but it sounds like it).
Your relationship with our guy is awesome; not many can say the same thing. Don't let them make you second guess it or feel weird.
So here's what you do. STOP TALKING ABOUT ANY PART OF IT. It's no business but yours and your boyfriends. If you don't talk about it, they can't pick it apart. If they ask questions, just get a goofy smile on your face as if remembering something really nice, and keep your mouth shut. Seriously, don't say anything at all, just smile. If you can do that every time they bring it up, then since they're not getting the reaction they want (you defensive or giving them details) then they'll stop bringing it up.
Good luck.
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