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writes:I have three main "exes" from last year, and two years ago.I did some thinking and dating with these girls, all different from one another, but they all seem to have it in their mind that I broke their hearts and they can never be the same again, which isn't rightly so. They were all very understood and set breakups.My question is that if these girls are in high school (freshman and sophomore year), why do they feel like they have to commit so hardcore? It's high school! At this point, no one has a car or a job, so why do they think that it's going to be bad forever?I don't get 100% emotionally attached to any girl I date, unless it's been for more than 6-ish months. Not trying to make that sound bad or anything. It's a safety cushion.Why do these girls act like I treated them so horribly? Why do they think it'll be like this forever? It's high school! Serious relationships have no room until everyone can have their money and car.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (19 August 2015):
 i met my wife when she was 16, and i was 20. we have been married 32 years now so what is your point?
you made need to mature some and grow up a little more and catch up to those girls you are complaining about. put away your playstation (xbox) and get a job on the side.
treat these girls like ladies , not like some throwaway item.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 August 2015):
 My memory of that age was feeling all sorts of new feelings, and feeling them very deeply. It was all new and wonderful and all new and awful and all new and very mysterious and puzzling and oh well, life can be a drama at that age, or any age for that matter. :)
Just be very clear about your intentions and don't lead anyone on, and you'll be fine. Good luck!
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (18 August 2015):
I met my husband when I was 14 and he was 17teen and he helped tutor me on maths as I had been off sick . I'm now 39 .. We have three adorable if not rascal kids .. what can I say .. sometimes things even as young as we were .. work .
If your not looking for gf .. then let them know it's friends and nowt more. I mean why should they get involved or kiss you etc if all your doing is having a Lil fun at what they think is their expense .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): I totally agree with anonymous girl. :) Because I'm also a girl and i'm also 16. I've basically gone through ALL those stages! trust me. To make a long story short... I've learned to act more like a grown-up in relationships now when i'm still just in my teenage years. So I understand the girls' view point, but I completely understand you.
So if they have a problem with you, don't waste your time. BUT! a word of advice is: the older you get, the more you should try and treat girls (and women) with a bit more respect. ^-^ no offence
Blessed be 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): Well, I'm 16 and I am in a relationship... and I'm a girl...First thing's first, I guess at this age, you could go on dates and be friendly with a girl. But the thing is, girls tend to think you wanna be more than friends. So i suggest maybe, you might wanna like get to know the girl first before officially saying that you're DATING her. You know what I mean? You see, having 3 exes in a past year is a lot actually.. and well, to girls, they may think that you led them on.. So if you're ever interested in a girl, you should get to know her first.. start off as friends and see if you guys are compatible.. believe me it works. And finally, girls think that it'll "last forever" its a normal thing for girls actually.. we think wayyyyy too ahead.. believe me ive experienced that. thats why now, I think about the present and just enjoy it while it lasts. and plus, relationships aren't based on a timeline. its how you treat it and make it grow.. My bf and I actually started off as friends and we got to know each other really well and i suppose thats why me and him had lasted this long. we been together for almost 2 years. So I suggest don't get offended when these girls say you broke their heart etc. Anyways, good luck and I hope you'll take my advice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): they are hoping to meet someone nice ,and not a user just out to pop their cherry.
most guys at your age ,like you have one agenda to bed a girl and turn her loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): I'm 20, in a serious relationship and can't afford to have a car, so don't assume that :P However, I agree with you that 95+% of the time it's not very serious at your age and doesn't usually amount to much long-term. That said, most teenagers (more girls than boys) go through a stage where they want to cling on to their relationships and they fall hard (infatuation), believing that their love life is practically over if they break up.
I know a really wild, clubbing girl that was the extreme of that; she got pregnant (and miscarried) twice with her abusive on-off boyfriend and she kept going back to him for 2 years because she still thought he was supposed to be the love of her life. When they finally broke up this time (presumably for good), she was a mess, but now (6ish months later) she seems to be over it.
Sometimes, the over-dramatising of relationships lasts months, sometimes it lasts years, but it's very normal and you're fine to just ignore it, unless you did intentionally or unintentionally mistreat them.
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