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writes: I have a problem with dating Jamaican women. It usually start off just right, we get along well with each other, we talk things out and we go out all the time...plus I help her out all the time. I take reasonability in our relationship this has gone on for three years. It is a good relationship and she know that I am a man who is not afraid of commitment and being in relationship with her.The problem starts when she is around her friend whom she grew up with...telling her that all “African American men are no good for Jamaican women all they want is to have sex with Jamaican women and only Jamaican men know too take care of island women.“ ...then her family start saying the same thing as her friend, she began to believe it, and every thing started going downhill from there.What can I do to stop this type of problem from happening to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2011):
 If she buys into that stereotype, are you really sure she's the woman for you? I mean, you've been demonstrating that you are a good man for 3 years and she dismisses all that with a few words from friends and family?
I think if you really want to salvage the relationship you need to get to the people who have her ear and confidence, her friend and her family, and concentratedly woo them. I don't mean, make passes at them, but get to know them and show them how wonderful and thoughtful you are.
You could get some help from her and ask in what ways your mainland ways are different from the island guys, and attack those, one by one with the naysayers.
Give the 'island women' a sample of how wonderful you are. Find out when their birthdays are and get them thoughtful cards. Talk to them about stereotyping and how you don't fit their notions of men here.
Again though, if she's that willing to believe a stereotype over 3 years with you, are you sure she's worth the trouble?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): you need to tell her that you are just as good as the other guys, let her give you the chance to show her family how much of a gueniene guy you really are. you need to fight for her, if you dont you will loose her, hope this helped
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