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writes:My problem isn't romance or relationship related, but at this point the stress I'm feeling feels like a rejection. I seek advice here. Last year October I met with a mentor of mine and I expressed to her that I was looking for a job in a particular field. She told me she knows someone who's an executive in that particular field and they will be able to get me a job. I was introduced to the person and met with them twice, kept in contact with them and they instructed me how to write my resume, look for jobs on the website I'm interested in, and what to read about in regards to the industry. He expressed to me that he would submit my resume and that I'll be working by February. I've done all that he said and now I'm reaching out to him to send him my resume, he's ignoring me. I call him with a different phone than the one I have and he picked up. He told me he would call me back and never did. The person basically led me on and then turned his back on me when it was time to get the ball rolling. I just don't get it. I feel like a helpless fool. I've been searching for a job after college for almost a year now and the hope I had this person stripped it away from me.Why do people have the guts to lead people or string them along, then turn there back on them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 January 2016):
 Yikes!
I makes no sense in pumping you up like that and then ignoring you, add on the time spend helping you write resume etc.
Did you keep in touch or just reached out now that it was getting close to February? Might be he felt you weren't as interested as you had seemed. OR he only agree to help out due to your mentor asking. Or it could be he hired someone else and didn't want to tell you. Or he likes to "play" magnanimous and offer tips and job, but can't really produce a position.
Try and look on the bright side, you should have a pretty nice look resume, so time to send it out EVERYWHERE you are interested, don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Personally, I would not have waited around unemployed for a job that wasn't 100%. And in the future neither should you.
Don't give up hope, I'm SURE there are more jobs out there than this one.
Chin up and keep at it.
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (23 January 2016):
Hey there,
I'm sorry, but there are people like that around. Maybe he just felt that it was too much to tell you not to expect anything from him.
You should not lose hope. You have to try all sorts of avenues when searching for a job, and not pin all your hopes on exactly one attempt coming to fruition.
There have to be multiple avenues that you have to simultaneously work on. Keep checking the job websites online and check the newspapers.
This person that you were consulting with gave you many good tips. Thank him in your head and use what he told you. Make sure your CV shows all your plus points and achievements and groom yourself for interviews.
I understand your frustration, but you have to keep at it. Plus I would suggest giving yourself a deadline.
Say another year to find a job in this industry. Or else think of branching out. There could be other industries too that might require a person of your expertise, so you have to think laterally as well.
This is the time to sell your skills. And keep your determination up.
All the best.
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