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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:...so frustrating. I'm single. I've just found out that this woman at work I've fancied for years is having a ding-dong with a guy who sits virtually right next to her. I'm the other side of the building. Why do people settle for second best / the easy option? Clearly I think I'm the man for her but have never really been able to break the ice with her in the coffee area. He on the other hand is evidently completely at ease with her and that is how their relationship has flourished. Why do people settle for what's on their doorstep? Why don't they go further afield for someone to whom they may be better suited in the long run? I'm so very disappointed - I like her a lot! This 'luck of the draw' approach to relationships is completely ridiculous. Why can't she see that I'm just as attractive? This other guy completely swamps her and brainwashes her with his 'people skills' - he's a manager. Do all office relationships grow out of years of friendship or is there still a place for good old fashioned sexual attraction whereby people are willing to leap across that divide to take a chance on someone who really they might be more compatible with in the long run. Yours dejectedly. Thanks for any forthcoming comments.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 November 2008):
So you never spoke to her and never asked her out and now that is HER fault because she was not psychic enough to realise that the perfect guy for her was on the other side of the building???
Seriously?
Yes she's probably sleeping with the guy next to her because she is bored and he's there. Why not? Sex is fun.
So what you need to do is find an excuse to talk to her, flirt with her, and ask her out.
If you are as amazing as you say you are then she'll probably dump her other guy and come out with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): Don't blame her, it's your fault. You never made a move, you admit you never broke the ice with her. You say you fancied her for years but never made a move? how is she suppose to know you liked her? she has every right to date someone else. I think you should look elsewhere and make a move next time!
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