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writes:Okay. Not really sure how to articulate my problem, but here goes:Basically, I'm 15. I've never had a boyfriend. This doesn't bother me, though; what DOES bother me, however, is what little interest people express towards me (by the way of attraction).It's not like I'm stunning, but I'm not ugly, either. I don't have self esteem issues- I'm confident and forthcoming. Not to sound full of myself, but I'm smart, as well.It's not like I'm unpopular or anything. I'm a regular person, with a large group of friends (both male and female), and I get along relatively well with most people. I get along well as a friend with guys due to the fact that I'm a pretty big gamer, and I exchange games with my male friends all the time. (I wonder if this makes me seem less feminine, meaning that they wouldn't be interested in me because of it?)But, back to the main topic. All of my female friends either currently have boyfriends/have broken up with their boyfriends/have been asked out, while I've never had a boy ask me out or compliment me as more than anything than a friend. Is there something wrong with me? Do I send out the wrong signals or something? I've been told that I can be intimidating, but I don't try to be. I really just want to know if anyone will ever be interested me or if I'm just destined to be FOREVER ALONE.My female friends are all attractive, really nice people- as well as this one girl in particular. Let's call her B. Anyway, B has an amazing knack for getting people to like her, and she's really pretty as well. There's one guy I've liked for ages, and I've gotten to know him better this year, but B and him get along really well and laugh and jokingly flirt all the time. It hurts because all the guys are really interested in her, and the only time guys pay attention to me (if they're not a friend) is if they're mocking me by pretending to compliment me. (They laugh at me and get me embarrassed all the time; I don't know what to do.)Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Hi there :)
Exact same problem except I've dated once. But other than that, Exactly the same !
You know what I feel...I think its just that you're smart and confident and that may make you intimidating. And due to the latter, guys do not approach you.Doesn't not mean they are not interested. A guy probably totally digs you but doesn't have the courage to tell you so because he knows he cant mess with you sorts.
But that does not mean you are not attractive. You sound Totally attractive ! and lemme tell you, Guys dig girls like these.
So don't have any doubts about yourself.
Just be more outgoing I'd say Just be patient and you'll totally get a guy worth you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): hii...
woww...this sounds EXACTLY like me!!! i know how much it sucks to be in this situation and how hard it is to deal when it seems like everybody is in love with everybody but you and you're feeling like there's nobody out there for you.
when i was your age, i was in the same place that you are right now. but shortly after i turned sixteen, guess what??? i got my first boyfriend. about six months after that relationship ended, guess what??? i got my second boyfriend (who actually turned out to be my first real love). about four months after that relationship ended, guess what??? i got my third boyfriend. these days, i'm single, but i have actually had several offers (the only problem was that the guys that made those offers just weren't people that i was interested in dating). i have come pretty close to two more relationships, too. this might not really sound like a whole lot, but it's a whole lot more than i ever thought that i would end up having.
the point i'm trying to make here is that all hope is not lost, so you shouldn't treat the situation as if it is. i know it might not seem like it when all of your friends are dating or have dated in the past, but you are not alone in this. there are a lot of girls--beautiful, sweet, intelligent girls, at that--who have never had a boyfriend or aren't getting any offers at your age. in addition to myself, i can tell you about quite a few other people who were in that same situation. and do you know where they are now??? they are either happily married or happily involved in a relationship.
your prince is going to come someday. just give him time. above everything else, put all of your faith and trust in God. because He loves you already. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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