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writes:Why do guys insist on doing purposely sweet things knowing it’s forced and insincere, knowing you already don’t buy it, but just to con you, do it anyways. God , if I’m trying to see the relationship for the whatever the heck it really is, I’m making the it easy for you, I’m letting you WIN. Why would you then try to trick me into believing otherwise? Oh right, just so you can call me crazy later for believing EXACTLY the things I refused so vehemently in the beginning. So you can tell your boys I’m a crazy b****. No, of course it wasn’t because you were a manipulator who told blatant lies. No, I’m crazy. Because it wasn’t me who said we should be buddies and not call each other some misleading shit like honey, babe, or sweetie. It wasn’t me keeping our phone conversations concise and to the point. I wasn’t the one confused as to why saying goodnight was not sufficient and we had to go through the tedium of ‘sweet dreams’ XOXO and other such rituals. I just don’t get it. I don’t get it. and Women don’t know what they want? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Good post here. Yes, men should let a woman know his intentions. I, myself, if I have feelings for a woman I let her know what they are and if I decide to buy her things I am always up front as I often, arguably, proceed with buying unusual things for women at the start. I tell them why I do these things and assure them that I do these things as its just part of who I am. Guys who lead on and crash the gate on you are really just lookin for panties. Like, theyll do anything and everything to be kind to show you that they genuinely care but in reality they do not. This is quite sad and very common amongst men Ive found. Perhaps try to question men who do nice things for you. Ask them why are you doing this? and look for a detailed answer not just "I like you". For example, I told a girl I got her a gift for her brithday (we arent together) because I feel she is different than most women and deserves a small nice and unique gift and that she has things about her people dont recognize but I do and I enjoy her. Granted I will be nice out of nowhere and with no reason, these days I cant be humble about that particularly cause of the situation you have decribed: Men can be misleading jerks so I absolutely make sure a lady knows what my intentions are with everything I do for her. Good luck.
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reader, JustinNki  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 As a man, I can say, men are a MESS.
Not all, but there is a LOT of men out there including myself, who are young and just confused about themselves and confused about relationships that they are in.
If you really love him and want this to work, you might have to look past his shiny fits of rage
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): "Why do guys insist on doing purposely sweet things knowing it’s forced and insincere, knowing you already don’t buy it, but just to con you, do it anyways." Because we know girls will eventually buy it. If it didn't work then we wouldn't do it.
"Why would you then try to trick me into believing otherwise?" Because it works, because at the end of the day a lot of girls will give in to it and let themselves be tricked.
Look if no girl ever fell for that kind of crap no guy would do it, but the simple fact is every girl falls for it at least once in their life and most girls fall for it even more than that.
You see it's simple really, girls won't listen to their heads and look at behaviour, they prefer to believe lies because it's what they want to believe is true.
Here read this article and you'll see what I mean. Next time you meet a guy look for the signs in his actions and not in what he says.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-actions-speak-louder-than-words.html
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reader, PM  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Some men lie, just like some women lie. Some men are misleading, just like some women are misleading.
It's not something that every guy does and thinking it is just makes it easy to be angry and bitter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): ~DECEIT HURTS~It appears that someone hurt you...Your anger shows. I have felt as you before, and to get through it I look at the positive side of it in that I know my words of such sort were/are sincere.It does hurt when another misleads us, however, it helps to know that we should never try to deny another the right to be himself just because it is in contrast to ourself.The only one on can control is himself, and as such one must not all his disregard or hurt from another's manipulation, betrayal or deceit of him transform his good substance to that of distasteful.I hope you feel better.God Bless~
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