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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: hi all. ive asked this question before, but got no answers so here it is again... why do men sexually abuse girls? what makes them do it? i have been molested from the age 6-9 and then again at 12-16 by a different man. why was i abused? i blame myself.. why would men want to abuse someone? it messes you up Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): It's not YOUR fault sweet heart ok? Men (and women) who abuse children (or animals for that matter) are sick mentally..with no questions asked. It is NOT and I repeat NOT natural for an adult to want to have sex with a CHILD. A child can not consent to such an act, a child does not know anything about such an act, and the child is not an adult therefore, they cannot understand, appreciate and perform such acts in a healthy and civil manner. Plus, a child's body or mind is NOT developed enough to put they're bodies through such pain and wear and tear.
I don't give a damn what the abusers told you....YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME AND THEY ARE SICKOS WHO NEED TO BE IN A REHIBILITATION CENTER FOR THE REST OF THEY'RE LIVES...CUT OFF FROM THE REST OF SOCIETY AND PLACED AROUND THEY'RE OWN. Placing child abusers in jail will not rid them of the thoughts and urges that they have...it's an illness (a horrible one at that).
I hope you report the abusers to the authorities (police), and if you are close to a family mem. whom you trust, tell them ASAP. Get into therapy, pray, and know that you are NOT to blame.
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reader, romany +, writes (14 August 2010):
You know deep down its not your fault, its the sickness in the man that makes him, and not all men are like this, you've just been very very unfortunate to meets ones like it, and for this i'm totally gutted for you.
You need help coming to terms with this, i dont know whether you have a trustworthy adult, if you do, tell them whats happened, they can help you find peace by helping you thru the healing process, if you have no one, then go see your doctor, and tell her/him, and ask for someone who can coach you thru
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reader, romany +, writes (14 August 2010):
You know deep down its not your fault, its the sickness in the man that makes him, and not all men are like this, you've just been very very unfortunate to meets ones like it, and for this i'm totally gutted for you.
You need help coming to terms with this, i dont know whether you have a trustworthy adult, if you do, tell them whats happened, they can help you find peace by helping you thru the healing process, if you have no one, then go see your doctor, and tell her/him, and ask for someone who can coach you thru
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