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writes: Male point of view why do men suddenly change and run away and wont take responsibility when they have got someone pregnant.its 50/50 Reply to this Question
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (16 May 2006):
 If the man doesn't want to be a father he could have a lot of things going on in his head but trust me he is thinking about that child. He could be afraid he won't be a good father, he could feel scared of the commitment or he could just be a coward as stated before. You can't make this man be a father but eventually that child will grow up (that tends to happen with children). They will then begin to look for answers themselves. He will have to answer for his misdeeds if not to you then that child or the most merciful. Keep your head up and don't let this stop your progression. Take it from a child who was left behind.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (16 May 2006):
 My answer to you is simple, they are losers and are merley rubbish they have no standards neither do they have any respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): "why do some men refuse to have anything to do with the baby even if you dont want them as a lover just a father"
Maybe they don't want to be a father? It's a lot of commitment isn't it? Maybe they want to go out with their mates, have fun, not spend their nights in looking after a crying baby.
If men were the ones who could get pregnant, not women, and you found out your partner was pregnant but you were enjoying your life without kids, wouldn't you be tempted to run away from the problem? It's wrong but it is understandable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhy do some men refuse to have anything to do with the baby even if you dont want them as a lover just a father
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (16 May 2006):
This can be more than one way. Some men run because the are cowards and that is wrong. You have to keep in consideration that some men just don't want to be with the mother whether there was a baby or not. Just because there is a baby doesn't make a good relationship. As long he is supportive finacially and spends time with the child. Thats his only real obligation, to be with you is not. Hard but true. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): These are cowards....you'll find REAL men don't do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): You mean why do *SOME* men run away from responsbility?
The answer: They arn't mature enough to handle it.
Chances are he will come back. One day.
My heart does goes out to you, I know a number of girls who were left by the fathers. They were young though, and weren't ready for that much commitment.
I'm not excusing them; they are wrong. They were old enough to have sex; they should be old enough to deal with the consequences.
Sometimes men run away just to deal with the situation; perhaps he'll come back soon, before it's too late.
If he doesn't, you'll have to put all your effort in to yourself and your baby.
I hope things work out for you, and I hope you can talk to the man and tell him on what exactly he is giving up. Not just now, but a potential whole life of being a dad and having a child. Good luck to you, I hope you have someone to talk to about this.
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