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writes:whenever I like a guy and I find out he likes me to I want to run a mile! I dont like the thought of other people knowing my feelings. what does this mean and how can I get around it? Because im fed up of being alone and i really want to get over my insecurities and have a proper relationship for a change! xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): Proper relationships can mean that our barriers go down. We let people in 'our space'. We tell them our inner most secrets. We let them devour our time. etc. It is called - getting close to someone. I know how you feel. I was married to a wife beater for 20 years, after that i met someone who i spend a number of years with and that didn't work, so when i met someone after all that, i turned him down after a couple of dates. Not because i didn't like him, the opposite, i was scared still of letting anyone into my world, in case of getting hurt all over again.It is something we have all gone through at some point in our live, but we have to learn to love and trust all over again. I know - it isn't easy, but it will come in time.
Take care
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Insecurity is not something people can help you with. It comes from within you. First you need to find the reasons of why you can’t handle people liking you. If you cant get close to people, find out what’s stopping you. You will find the answers. When you meet someone and they like you, don’t run, take it slow to begin with (being friends) trust this person by telling them you want to take it slow and don’t want to spill all your feeling at that point. (that’s the first step) If you take it slowly and do some soul searching you may find that everything falls into place.
Take Care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): hijust read you'r problem. i'm 27 yr old female and i too have had this problem mostly in my younger years as we love our freedom, but honestly when MR PERFECT comes along that will all fade.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 March 2007):
 This is a trust issue. Someone somewhere has let you down bady and now your afraid to show how you feel. Alot of people feel like this more than you would probably realise.
When you meet the right person you will feel your able to open up to him (sounds corny but it's true).
This may take a while with the same person until you feel you can open up fully, but little by little you will feel you can tell them more and more.
This all takes time and won't happend in a few weeks of seeing someone, concentrate on having fun with someone and hopefully the rest will follow :-)
Good Luck!
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