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writes:I've realized lately that when I'm thinking about guys I'm interested in, and I imagine what it would be like to be with them, I'll start out fantisizing about kissing them, but then I'll start imagining them hitting me. Not because I think they would, or because that turns me on, but I just end up fantasizing about getting the crap beat out of me. Is this normal? I'm not afraid of these guys, or any guy, for that matter and I've never been in that situation, but I can't help thinking about it. I have masochistic tendancies, but these fantasies aren't sexual at all. It's just a guy punching and kicking me repeatedly. I just don't know why I'm thinking like this, and any input would be helpful. Thanks.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (24 March 2010):
 In dreams this kind of violence could mean that you are desiring to feel stronger emotions. That would fit nicely with your search for companionship.
I won't say that those thoughts aren't normal, the range of human emotion certainly includes people who think this way. They could also come from your past.
While it might be interesting to explore this with a Pshrink, it would probably also be expensive. You could start with a parent or school counselor. If it is bothering you enough to ask strangers, it is probably something to take up on a more personal level.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 .... and here is me thinking I might be a bit twisted coz I like having my hair pulled lol.
Seriously tho, your thoughts are rather extreme and probably best explored with a psychologist if you want to get to the bottom of it. However, it is only fantasy, you don;t have to act upon it, probably wont find too many A-Holes who would do that too you anyway (well I hope you don't), ... so if you can think such things without it impacting detrimentally upon you in other ways then I guess I would not worry about it too much.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Ummmmmm, those aren't normal thoughts I'm afraid. Have you ever had troubles with abuse when you were younger? Or somebody close to you? Something is triggering those thoughts in your head.
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