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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I don't understand whats happening this week. I met gorgeous funny guys who liked me and asked for my number and to take me out. And of course at the time it's nice and find the attention great! I've even gone on dates with them and they've been good...But then I have those moments every now and then when I think they aren't him, I want to be here with him and I realize I don't want these guys, I like him. 'Him' meaning this guy who I met a little while ago one night out, but things kind of got ruined because of miscommunication so in the end I gave up.What I'm getting at is, I've met this guy maybe two or three times but I don't know him well enough to like him, to the extent where I don't want any other guys. In fact, before I've been seeing a guy and then I still find myself interested in other guys and not comparing them to him. But this time with this guy I am! I want to know why this is? I'm not even with the guy nor did we use to date, sure I did really like him, but all I do is think well he's not him and how I want him to be the one there with me instead of all those other guys! What is going on, why am I being like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, itcantjustbeme +, writes (21 February 2012):
 Everyone, EVERYONE has their 'what if'... Usually someone you barely got to know and the timing was all wrong. The flame that ignited just for that person can't go away because there was no beginning let alone an end to the affair. I personally dealt with one for 2 years. The boy even moved to the other side of the country and I couldn't stop obsessing over what could have happened and how every guy wasn't him...Then one day I just realized it had disipated.It may take a while, it may suck but it will probably just go away with time. Unless you're a lucky one and get another chance at your 'what if'Hope luck's on your side! For the other 99.9% chance; don't let the boys who may be prince charming walk out the door because of your fantasies, because then one of those boys may become a whole new cycle of 'what if's.
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