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writes:I want to make this short and honest as possible.I am a very nice person,but sometimes for some strange reason I do things that hurt others.For example I would de-friend people on Facebook,and send them a message telling them what I did.Other times I would send an e-mail and tell some people that I never want to have anything to do with them.Usually when a girl asks me for a hug or is interested in me,I usually tell them to get lost.Does anyone know what is wrong with me and why I am like this?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 It could be Narcissistic personality disorder. I am not a doctor. Maybe you should make an appointment with your doctor/therapist for a psychological evaluation.
reference:-
http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/narcissistic-personality-disorder?utm_medium=ask&utm_source=smart&utm_campaign=article&utm_term=Narcissistic+Personality+Disorder&ask_return=Narcissistic+Personality+Disorder
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 I agree that you need therapy to get to the root of why you are intentionally and deliberately not nice to people, despite thinking you are actually a nice person.
I suspect someone must have hurt you very badly and it is some twisted defensive mechanism that makes you blow people off - like you want to hurt people before they can have a chance to hurt you.
I hope you get it sorted, but it will take a lot of time and introspection I think before you even understand why you are doing it, let alone be able to work on stopping it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Do YOU know why you are like this? What kind of family life did you have growing up? These people that you de-friend on Facebook--are they really friends or just associates? How were you treated as a child and teen? Do anyone in your family have that same trait? There could be a number of reasons why you act in this manner. Have you ever tried counseling of some sort? I like the fact you realize you have an issue and asking questions and seeking help--which is a step in the right direction. I say go seek help from a counseler or therapist.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (21 March 2010):
I think that's a better question for your therapist that you should have. My guess is if you intentionally want to "hurt" other people by defriending them on facebook (which I guess is hurtful to some sensitive groups) or tell girls to get lost; it sounds like you may just have a fear of rejection yourself or some sort of inferiority complex, so you hurt or reject others before they can hurt/reject you. I'm not a psychologist, but it kind of sounds like something like that.
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