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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've known this guy for about 6 years already and we're very good friends though I don't tell him everything. We're very open and our friends jokes about us being an item all the time. We fight and argue a lot nevertheless. At the same time, we're very competitive and are rivals in studies. During a truth or dare game at a friend's party recently, he was dared to kiss my hand and he willingly did because of the openness we have with each other. He might've been like that as well because people would think it's normal. On the outside, I was very defensive and unwilling about it. I even showed my disgust (as a joke of course) over it but inside, as weird as it sounds, I felt a cocktail of emotions - a little giddy, shy and happy. Then he wanted to remove my shirt jokingly (it was because the guys were trying to strip another guy so he was making a joke) He only reached for my shirt and lifted it very slightly enought to show a little skin though. I was annoyed, yes but I was just glad that it was him because I felt comfortable with him. I have never considered him more than a friend and I never would because of many reasons. 1, we do not look compatible physically, he's shorter than me. 2, he doesn't meet most of the criterias that I look for in a guy. 3, he's too childish and has many flaws that I would only accept in a friend and not in a boyfriend. Yes, I'm happy being around him and I enjoy his company and the things he does to me. My question is why do I have these inappropriate feelings so randomly when I obviously do not like him more than a friend? And how do I go about it because I want to continue being comfortable around him because the thoughts of me secretly liking the things he does is seriously making me feel more and more awkward. Thanks for your time and help!
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 the thing is, he is a match for your personality.
You feel awkward, because you are worried what other people might think, instead of yourself.
Forget your impression of what other people think.
You exhibit all the signs of liking someone.
Looks CAN change, great personalities don't.
I was fat and quite ugly at your age and now at 22, any woman i talk to says i look good. (i don't ask). Some have said i am the "most beautiful guy they've ever seen" (once)
Come to terms with your feelings then decide what YOU want, not what you think others want.
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