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writes:HEY!!!! again its lotmoney13!!!!!!Hey, so lately i've been thinking and getting advice from all my friends but one thing kinda dosent add up.....Why do i feel like this when he's around?i have a really deep crush on one of my friends ,he's straight, and in between the first time i realized i liked him and today, i've had crushes on a couple other guys.....but when i'm around my friend...i get this amazing, overwhelming feeling. Even though i know things wont happen between us, and i've faced that fact, i still get this strange emotion when we talk, or when he's around, or when he just smiles......i just drop to my knees and feel like i'm on some other planet where my problems dont matter....So can anyone tell me why i feel like this? i mean i know i have a crush.....and i'm pretty sutre that thats all it is.......but only when i'm around HIM i feel like i'm under a spell....maybe its because he's my friend? i dont know...please...anybody help?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (19 February 2009):
 I really believe that you are In Love with this guy.Not to make light of this, quite often at your age those feelings are quite often refferred to as Puppy Love. When he's around he brings out the deepest emotions that you can feel. Those emotions are centered around him. One thing you must realise hon is that you are very young yet and the guy may not be capable of feeling the same as you do. It usually takes guys a bit longer to get those Starstruck feelings for us girls.
I really liked a guy for most of my teen years and finally in high school we went out briefly. His cousin was a good friend of mine. To this day we are still remain friends. One of my childhood sweethearts whom I met at age 4 and like for about 10 moved away and when he returned a few years later married another friend of mine. My ex husband married a girl who tried to help us get back together.My Grandmother after being widowed many years reunited with her childhood sweetheart again and they got married. The marriage lasted until he passed over 25 years later. The point is that you never know what life will bring. Take things one day at the time.
You and your FRIEND have plenty of time to figure out what you both want. Developing a strong and lasting friendship is going to prove a good thing in your future. There is no certain guarentee that he will in time step up and be your bf but he will be a good friend. A true friendship is just like any other relationship as it takes invested time and affections of both people involved. Let it evolve naturally. You know how you feel but you don't honestly know what he is feeling. Sometimes people even surprise themselves about their feelings for others. In time you may realise that it's just a very comfortable relationship you have with your friend or that he may actually change his mind about you and ask you out!
Just be his friend and take a bit of time in getting involved too deeply with anyone. You are at a stage in your life where you are tring to find a place in this workd to connect. A place that brings meaning to who you are. It helps to validate your emotional status. You need to let these things happen slowly and without much stress. This allows all to come about in the best way. Try to remember that you care for him but don't allow yourself to dwell upon it. Exercise all caution in how you act around him and to him. Treat him like a friend. Let him be the one to make any necessary moves.
Guys tend to shy away from girls who seem to wear their hearts on their sleeves. They aren't really fond of other people knowing more about the situation than themselves. They don't care much for the pressure and sometimes will become annoyed at too much attention. This type of behavior can push your friend out of the ballpark before you even get in the outfield and before he makes the first swing! In other words if he isn't ready yet to play the game, then pushing the issue could cause him to call it off completely.
You have got to get yourself together! Focus on doing other things and spend lots of time with other friends. Use your nature and common sense as your defenses and just be yourself but refrain from putting him in the center of your world. It can make you look a bit foolish and embarrass him. In time when you give him your friendship and he has grown older and you have both matured more, you never know what may happen.
*Just a note......For Nothing good done for the sake of friendship has ever gone unnoticed. Nothing forgotten in the same. In the span of a lifetime or even that of many days,will you be in sorrow for all that will have come full circle. Friendships are meant to last forever........SEEK GOD'S WISDOM AND HIS WILL BE DONE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): it seems like you have it bad. you understand nothing will happen as he is straight but i think your falling for him badly. it certainly sounds like it. you seem enchanted by him. its sweet really. :)i think the only thing you can do is daydream about him. but enjoy this feeling. maybe one day you will move on from him naturally but for now just have fun with it.:)
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