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writes:Hey! I need advice...Ok so I'm going to try to make this short.Sooo last year I was real cool with this guy, I mean talkin on the phone hangin out, then we started having sex. So this went on for about 7/8 months. We both had feeling for eachother but wenever really told 1 another. His best friend told me and ect. Sooo we stop talkin because after we got into a little fight over school than the next time we talked we got into it again because he met my cousin and they was talkin and they hung out. So we never talked after that, I said some bad things to him and that was it. He never called me on my birthday neither which was 4 days after the last fight. So I was like whatever, trying to not let it get to me even tho I was hurt. So like 4 months went byhe hit up my best friend over facebook because she kn him before me, but I knew her before him. Me and her are really close. So she told him she couldn't talk to him because he hurt me, and he told her his side of the story which I didn't agree with. But I never called him or anything. I was just working and having fun with friends. So 5 more months go by with him having a girlfriend and joking with my best friend every blue moon like calling her crazy or commenting on her pics, which he never did when we was friends but I didn't mind. I was like whatever. So another month goes by and he hit up my bestfriend up on facebook saying they should hang out, because before he hit her up, him and his girlfriend was over. But I never had no one else after him. Like I couldn't find 1 guy that I like when everyone else around did and was rubbing it in my face. If a guy did come across me they had kids or a girlfriend so I've been alone for almost a year. I mean I try not to let it get to me but it does sometimes, I'm tryin to start school too but ugh its just?? So my question is sould I even care? Because when me and the guyuse to agrue every blue moon he would call my best friend and tell her what happened because I wouldn't answer his calls. But now I just feel like bad. I mean I know I'm pretty and I'm a fun girl, I loveto laugh and joke ect but I don't want him tryin to be back friends with my best friend. I feel stupid for even caring, like just dumb. I feel like I'm never going to met another guy, I mean when august comes it will be a year. So I don't what to think now. My best friend told me she wouldn't if I didn't want her too but I just feel so stupid for even caring. So should just tell my best friend its ok and just deal with it? Or just? I don't even know :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answer.
And I don't have a facebook, my best friend was telling me what was goin on. And I don't go to places that we use too, no no noooo lol. I feel like I moved on, I just don't likethe fact that he's trying to be my best friend, friend again. But I know I can't tell her what to do. But maybe its for the best. Idk anymore. But thank you again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): It's normal to care when you break up with someone you really care about. Especially if they're been a big part of your life for a while. But i think you have to accept that due to all these arguments you were having and the way he dealt with them. Plus the fact he's moved on with another girl shows he's well and truly over the relationship and has moved on and you need to too. Stay away from places you used to go, write a big long list of things that were wrong with him and put it by your bed so every day you remind yourself why it's better he's out of your life. I would say delete him of Facebook and try not to be in any place where you might see him becuas eit will just make it harder. You need a clean break now and you need to cut him out of your life, but it's okay to care about him as you still and probably will for a while always care for him. Try and immerce yourself into a new hobby, keep going out and meeting new people and try and see the benefits of being single. The best guys tend to turn up when you're not looking for them. Guys really like girls who seem happy and confident on their own. They don't NEED a man. As for your ex it's time to let him go, cut him out and move on with your own life, he's made it clear there's no going back to that relationship and it's probably for the best judging by his behaviour.
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