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36-40,
*achakaRoni
writes:I wish I had a boyfriend, I always feel the last few months especially that I am fat and ugly. I have put on a few pounds but nothing major but cause I have I feel not worthy of one. I know it sounds silly but I feel jealous of my ex's having relationships when I dont even want to be with them anymore. Is this loniliness or just something else? I just feel crap and couldn't care less a lot lately.
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reader, ruby buttons +, writes (20 July 2010):
 what you need is to go out with the girls, or get a hobby you sound like you are tranfixed on bieng lonely do you have a job?? what you need is to concentrate on other things then love will happen relax enjoy yourself and life will happen.
hope this helps message me if you have any more worries i can help. x
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Well it's a true thing that we all go through a 'pity party' time in our life when things get rough.
The thing is that nobody can change your life but you. Nobody can make you get in shape or be more positive about your looks but yourself.
There will always be people on this earth who think that they can define themselves ONLY through having a relationship with someone!! This is very sad!
If you were drowning in a lake, would you only swim to the side if there was a partner waiting there for you?...or would you drown?
Right now your drowning!...what if the guy was standing behind a tree and you couldn't see him?...would you still drown? (this is called giving up hope)
What if, instead of a guy there was some other life changing experience waiting for you?...would you still drown? (this is called giving up on your life goals)
Your not saving yourself because your expecting that only by someone else coming to rescue you...that you will be saved!!
Forget all that crap...start swimming girl!!! Take control, find your goals and if something makes you sad, mad or doubting...kick it aside and move on.
Discover who you really are as a person, learn to love yourself. Work out a little if it makes you happy, be creative, gain knowledge...be the person you want to be.
Nothing in life is easy, you have to work at it and keep trying...if you don't, you will sink beneath the water and nobody will ever know you were there!!
AE x
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