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writes:This is my situation. Like every girl i like getting attention from the guys, but when guys actually start talking to me or generally just show interest I think, "leave me alone." Im flattered with the attention, but then i feel like they should go away. Whats the psychology behind that? Maybe its my strict upbringing?Im currently a junior in college Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Well i am intetested in some of the guys who come up to me but i still get that "leave me alone" feeling. I think its that i believe they are after only one thing from me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): There's nothing wrong with you whatsoever. I'm a female in my 30s and think it's normal for a lot (not all) of girls and guys to feel this way. Craving attention from the opposite sex can be simple form of validation so to speak. Meaning once a guy shows interest by flirting it builds self esteem. The thought "leave me alone" is normal too as it can be considerd a victory in itself having the power to attract the opposite in the first place. Don't be distraught over feeling this way as once again it's very normal.
If you run into a situation where this happens with a guy your nuts about be careful not to frighten him away from ever talking to you again because for a lot of guys it's not easy to build the courage to talk to a girl and if you were to shy him away with the same thoughts he may think your not interested so for that special guy give him just a little sign like a smile to show you his efforts were welcomed. After all people are wired to communicate through words and actions and as they say, actions can speak louder than words. Ain't no harm in being flattered by attention, live it up, although to get what you want in life sometimes you will need to work a little harder for it ;-)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 September 2010):
Perhaps when you fancy one of the guys who talks to you, you'll feel differently. I'm sure there are hundreds of women who get chatted up who just want the men to go away. You won't be the only one. You'll probably find that either you're not ready yet for dating, or you're not interested in the guys who come up to you. Don't worry about it, there's nothing wrong with wanting them to go away.
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