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writes:Hello there, I noticed that when I like someone, I usually lose interest when the attention is reciprocated. Therefore I end up liking guys who are unattainable. What is wrong with me and is there a cure? I'm already nearing 40 and I wish I could like someone permanently! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): If I am honest, I don't really think you need counselling, i suspect you just need to find what you really want in a guy. you might be worried that for a reason or another he is better than you - and therefore dump and run before you get hurt.
but you seem confident - so just thing about why he is with you and stick with him - maybe be a bit more discerning before jumping into someone?
the pope ok was the most unobtainable person i could think of...it was either him or Jonny depp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I guess I would benefit from counseling. I've thought about it already but just didn't get around to it yet. Star...The pope? ha ha funny!!!I've tried staying as long as I could in a relationship but find myself breaking it up all the time. I think there's also a fear that the other person might break up with me so I do it first? I can't say there's more to explain, it's just so puzzling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Sounds like you like a challenge!
Maybe you could have a bit of counselling and find out why you always do this.
Funny, someone I've just answered said she was torn between two men and I thought she might also want the ones who aren't available. Perhaps you two could have a chat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): I think you should go after the pope - that would be a challenge for you.
I think you have a commitment issue - when one says i like you, you run... there is a cure - maybe stick around and see what happens next. go beyond the not sure stage to the i actually like waking up with him every day stage.
- i am not sure if above is the right track, but is what i think - can you elaborate some more please?
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