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writes:I have an issue with engaging in casual sex on occasion. Protection is used and things are safe, so there isn't a problem there. However, I always feel crappy (mentally) the next day and feel I shouldn't of done it. Why do I continue to do it? Any tips on how to stop? It seems like once things start, I can't stop myself or refrain.Also any ideas on how I can fix a situation where I slept with a guy on the first night, but I now like him. However, I'm sure he doesn't see me as relationship material, rather a booty call, shall I say. I tried to tell him that it was unlike me and that I am a respectable, classy, faithful girl, but I dont know if he caught onto my hint, or believed me.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Our hormones force us to love the man we have sex with. Male hormones are completely different. A booty call to them is like a pleasant basketball game-you like the players and it's fun.
Guys won't marry a girl who drops her drawers on the first date. It's a double standard, but it's because they figure that if you do it with them, you do it with everyone. Guys are too prideful to want a girl anyone can have-no matter what they may say.
You can't fix it with the guy you now love. But you can practice a no booty call until 3 weeks into dating a particular man rule. It's old fashioned, but these guys were raised by moms who have taught them to be this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): I used to do the same thing. I felt terrible about myself and the fact that somebody wanted me (if only for the night) was what i craved. It took me a long time to work out that was not they way to get what i was looking for. It sounds corny but nobody can love you if you don't love yourself first and it is so true.
I am now in a commited 5 year relationship and i am very very happy.
As for this boy tell him what you would like but if he just want's sex STAY away. When you feel happy with yourself i am sure the right man will come alone it happen for me.
Good luck hun xx
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