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anonymous
writes:Why would a guy make it a point to get a girl's number and not call? I have been told if a man is interested he will call within a day of asking, but I really don't want to buy into the idea of rules and games when it comes to relationships and dating. I just don't understand!? If you haven't called after a week, then obviously you had no intention of calling at all so why bother asking period. Could it be a genuine interest and he's just shy or something or could it be he feels obligated to the person, or is he just being plan cruel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): I agree with you on this one, totally, just no excuse, it's NOT being polite, and people should get away from the notion it is!
I feel a lot of it is down to the fact, that men in particular have this belief that IF they give the impression that they want to CALL or SEE you, by ASKING for your number, when they know they have no intentions whatsoever of calling, somehow lessens the fall-out the female will suffer subsequently, which frankly is a utterly unacceptable.
THIS IS WHAT MOST females have a problem with, men who ASK for their number, or saying they will call, but don't. IT IS NOT the fact they don't want to CALL or DATE you, but the wasting of YOUR emotional time, when they were already out the door.
There is such a thing as DATING ETIQUETTE just like having good manners generally, and the more we excuse people, whether it be male or female who do this, the more the problem will continue.
Always be straight forward, regardless of how others behave, game play is for the very young, and the only time it can be excused, but otherwise guys should not ask for numbers, if they have no intentions of calling, yes of course he could have lost it, quite feasible, as for the rest of the possible reasons, being married, with someone already, a player, or being too shy, well he wasn't too shy to ASK for the number..just not acceptable!
I hope you find a guy who is as direct as you seem, such a good foundation in which to start from. A guy who WILL SAY and DO what he says, Actions and Words matching..shows integrity!
Jilly x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Guy rule for phone numbers. If she is fit you go and talk to her, if you need to get away you ask for a number or a name for a facebook add so you don't seem like a shallow jerk.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Depends on the guy, depends on the girl, depends on the situation. Could be that he was interested, but too afraid to call. Could be that he wasn't interested, but being polite while getting out of a conversation. Could be that he's playing the game too and trying not to seem overly interested. Could be even that he just lost the number. But I think you're right that after a week, it's best to assume he's not going to call and write him off.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 August 2010):
One thing I've heard from a guy is that he may be interested in a girl based on her looks, he goes to speak to her and it turns out he's not really that interested, so he ends up feeling bad and asks for her number with no intention of calling her. Other ideas: he lost your phone number, was trying to just get numbers to feel better about himself, or he met someone later that he liked better. But who knows and you really shouldn't care. It's annoying, but at least you know he's not worth your time.
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reader, candygirl_iraq  +, writes (4 August 2010):
most of the times they think its polite because it is not a direct rejection.however,when they dont call back its ok for them. thats how they think,they really dont blv it hurts.
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