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writes:I have an old friend. I've known him for years but we live in different countries - both of us travel a lot with work so this is part and parcel of the job. There has always been a lot of chemistry between us but we have got on so great for the short periods we see each other than it never seemed worth risking the friendship over a casual fling, and we were never in the same place long enough for us to try to have a relationship. He was almost like a cousin in familiarity - it didn't seem worth screwing up such a lovely friendship over. Now, something strange happened last week. I happened to be behind him in an airport queue - going to the same city. We hadn't seen each other for years and were so happy to see each other. We caught up again in town and went out dancing. There was obvious chemistry and we both ended up talking about how we felt about the other (pretty much the same), and we had a kiss. It was nice. I was going away to a resort for the weekend with friends and he came with us. We were very couply (no sex) which led to a conversation about how much he likes and respects me, how it scares him, how he hasn't liked anyone like this for a long time and is not sure he's ready for it etc. It was fine with me - his friendship is the most important thing to me, so we decided that we wouldn't write things off, but that we would take our time etc. He said that he promised he would email me the day he got back. He never did. It's been over a week now and I've emailed him but had no response. Was he lying to me? He overwhelmed me with compliments and I know it wasn't just cause he was trying to get into my knickers. He seemed quite stressed out about his feelings towards me, but he did promise he'd keep in touch. He is single at the moment. He's such a good friend and it's very hard to write him off as just another man who has duped me. Please can you give me some advice? I don't want to be naive here, but I don't want to lose my friend.
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reader, alexia_marie +, writes (20 August 2010):
Maybe he is scared of being in a relationship, and doesnt want to mess everything up, hes probably thinkin on what he should do. best of luck.
and what kind of work do you do, becuase i would love to travel alot. and im intrested.
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Don't land on the first possibility that he's ignoring you, maybe he doesn't have computer acess, or maybe her forgot your email, and got another?
Just don't let it worry you
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