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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. He graduated from college last December and moved away while I tried to stay behind without him and finish my schooling like I had always intended. Well, I was lost without him. I moved to be with him at the end of last spring. It seemed to me like he had moved on without me. I didn't seem to mean the same thing to him anymore. I love this man with all of my heart and thought (still hope) that we have a future. He bought a house at the end of the summer and I have done a lot to make this house into our home though I really feel like I am not very involved in it. Lately, things have gotten worse and I have felt like he wasn't in love with me anymore. I tried to get him interested in sex last week and it didn't happen. This kind of threw me over the limit and I told him that i was going to look for my own place. He thinks this is a good idea, in fact, we are going to take a break from one another and not just put some space between us. That is not what I intended to happen, but I don't seem to have any control over it now. It is what he wants to do and I guess it would be best for both of us. I have never felt this heartbroken. This is the man that I thought I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. I am really emotional and upset about all of this, but he is acting like it doesn't matter and basically treating my very coldly and almost as if I am a stranger who never held a spot in his heart. I don't know what to do or how to react. Should I keep all of my feelings to myself? Should I hope for him to come around and realize he does still love me? I am exhausted and need some advice.
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reader, DrumMeOver +, writes (20 December 2005):
 It sounds like you guys need to communicate more. Your confusion may be easily cleared up by sitting down with your boyfriend for an hour or two and having a good talk.
Also, it seems as if he knows he's ready to move on. It's hard to admit to yourself I know, and it's a harsh thing to deal with. But you're both wasting precious time in which you could be avoiding hurt and working on making yourself feel better. Remember in times like these you must ALWAYS take care of yourself before any guy, and soon enough you will find stable footing and a guy that respects you in what currently seems like a lonely world of betrayal and broken hearts.
Take care of yourself and good luck, sweetheart.
You've always got people to help you out.
xo
KC
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