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writes:My brother is due to get married soon after dating his fiance for over 4 years. She invited me to her hen party, during which, I met many of her friends. Later on into the evening I met one particular friend who introduced herself and we chatted for a short while, just for the two of us. One of her other friends had earlier said to me that even though this woman looked a bit frumpy but in a quirky kind of way, she was known for liking 'bad boys' types Then she randomly dropped something into the conversation which left me feeling rather uncomfortable and somewhat speechless.This girl (well, woman of about 40) said 'Your brother's very naughty', to which I replied, 'Really?.' She then went on to say that every single day that she was away on holiday for two weeks, my brother just posted the word 'Moist' on her wall until she came back, because he knew that she wouldn't be able to get to log in to Facebook and see it. She said it was ok apart from the fact that her brothers/nieces etc. could read it (I guess that was being sarcastic). I think he wrote it on her wall but I don't see how he could because, with them all being friends on Facebook surely my sister-in-law would have read it and gone mad? Whilst she was saying this, I could see my sister-in-law out the corner of my eye dancing near to us as though she was trying to overhear what we were saying. I felt rather awkward at this point and didn't know what to say. Again, the friend said 'he's very naughty', and I again said 'oh right, really?', and she just nodded quite firmly.What does it all mean? For one, why was this girl telling ME this information as his sister? Two, would my sister-in-law know about it which is why the girl is telling me? Three, why would someone write the word 'moist' on Facebook every day for two weeks (that's all he wrote) and four, should I just keep my mouth shut about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): I would have a word with your brother and his intended. Give them a heads up about this woman. She sounds like a trouble maker. As you correctly pointed out, anything he posted on her wall could have been read by your brothers partner too. So it is highly unlikely he did that. I would just let them know what she is saying behind their backs and leave them deal with it as she is their 'friend'.
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reader, cg4eu  +, writes (17 March 2012):
Geeze this girl, I don't know what her problem would be.. First gross, why would a sibling want to know of the other sibling's sex life, and Second, why is she trying to draw you into some obvious fake drama. I think if I could I'd not want to be around this girl
(but what do I know about these things really, it just seems like she's the "naughty" one knowingly dropping two dramatic issues to you in under 150 characters at their friend's wedding party)
You know your brother, you probably know yourself wither this is true or not, and if it is... your allegiance should be towards him at this point (but that' not fair to say, you might love your soon to be sister in law), there is nothing for you to do. No need to drag yourself into that crap. This sort of case is easily provable as true or false although most people don't realize this... if you want to confess to someone, I'd bring it up to your sister in law to be that her friend seems to be causing trouble not in her best interest (as she seems to be not interested in telling her this fact, but she is in spreading rumors with people she just met)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): Well, I'm as speechless and stumped as you are. I don't have the faintest idea what she meant by "naughty". Writing "moist" for 2 weeks on some ones wall isn't naughty, it's silly and sounds obsessive. You know your brother, would he do something like that? Maybe you should talk to your sister in law. I mean to say, if you really don't picture your brother doing something so odd and it doesn't sound like him at all then I would assume this lady is just jealous and attempting to stir the pot. But then again, (since you most likely don't want to get your brother in trouble with his future wife) you might want to mention something to your him first. Gauge if he starts acting weird or if hes surprised and dumbfounded also. Or perhaps you should just keep the two love birds out of it and ask the woman yourself what she meant. I just wouldn't know how to approach a situation like this. So many things to consider. Maybe they have an open relationship? Maybe she's an ex? Maybe you missed something? Maybe it's nothing? Not sure, but I do see a slight possibility that you may find yourself in the position to nip this in the bud before it ever becomes a problem. But I'm also a (harmless) "meddler" within my family so my suggestion of saying something might be the wrong answer all together. Although, I would fear 5 years from now everyone being mad at me because I knew something was going on but didn't say anything. Who knows, but someone else will give you a much better answer, I'm sure. Either way, she sounds like an insane or at least very creepy woman, this "friend".
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): If you are your brother are close maybe you should ask him. Sometimes females get jealous of their friends and will do anything to break up happy homes. Maybe she is lying. Maybe she wants to start tension between your brother and his soon to be wife. I am a female but I must admit women like drama.
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