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*3puremage1
writes:In the past9 months, I have been loving a very good female friend of mine. Her arrival has brighten up my life at the start since I was really down due to several reasons. I love her a lot but she can only treats me as a friend which is understandable. I am a very pessimistic person somehow, so I don't feel happy almost 100% of my time but I do feel amusement. She had invited me alone to her home to have dinner with her family, which is simply something that is memorable and is something that makes me feel happy.Every time, when I recall this memory it always manage to make me feel happy. I simply don't know why. Now, I can still recall what exactly happen on that day because it was simply too good for me to forget. Other things in my life such as gaining extremely excellent academic result and chilling out with friends don't make me happy and I could only feel amusement instead since these feelings fade away in less than 2 hours. For example, when I receive a scholarship from a prestigious independent school, I could only feel happy for two hours and afterward I felt nothing at all.I know this isn't good for myself but I just can't stop myself. Lastly, can anyone especially female explain why a girl would invite a boy to her home to have dinner with her family. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 November 2011):
Hi there. Maybe you put a lot of emphasis on being in a relationship and are therefore putting all your eggs in one basket.
By that I mean, a relationship is perhaps the be all and end all of life for you, to the exclusion of all else.
So it's like unless you are in a relationship with someone, you don't feel complete as a person. You feel "less than" in some way.
Achievements are things to be happy about, and as you say once the initial excitement of it wears off as it inevitably does, well then you are looking for something else to fill the gap for you.
It sounds like you need more in your life to be interested in. Perhaps starting some interests or hobbies, that you feel passionate about and that are fun to do. Activities that pass time enjoyably for you, and where you are with other people as well. So you can make friends, which presents other opportunities to go out socializing on a regular basis.
It does seem that you don't have enough in your life to keep you interested and passionate about it every day when you get out of bed each morning.
If this young lady asks you to have dinner with her and her family, well then she obviously likes you enough to do that. Consider it to be at least friendship. Don't try and read anything more into it just yet.
Remember, most relationships usually start out as friendships, while you are getting to know each other. Then if you get along well with each other, it could evolve over time into something more romantic.
Just take it one day at a time and enjoy the journey. Have fun, laugh and be happy.
It might become something more, or it might not.
The main thing is to not have any expectations and then you will enjoy the friendship.
Then see how it goes over time. No need to rush.
Variety is the spice of life. The more effort you put into it, the more you get out of it. No exceptions.
Life is what you make it.
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