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writes:(MOD NOTE: ORIGNAL POSTERS TITLE) I got my on and off again bf of 1.5 yrs a christmas gift - he loved it. But was acting kinda weird after. We have just gotten back together. Its been bit tense between us. Anyway, the next day, he txts me and tells me he doesn't have the money to get me a gift yet we were both paid that very same day. I am currently pregnant by him - at the half way point. So instead of throwing a fit, I wrote back its ok, no big deal. But then he said he was trying to find me something in his house. I wrote back in order to keep the peace, don't bother - you are my present :-) that hurt me to write this to him but I did just to see how he would respond. I was bit annoyed as he had five hrs prior asked me to buy his sis a pressie for him while he was in work..I did and he had txt me see you next year! so I wrote back don't you want to pick your sis pressie up first then tell me see you next yr. He then says how he wanted to post the money through my letter box for the gift I had got her. So my brain could not make sense of this, as if he had no money to get me a present but he had the money to re-imburse me?? Then he changes topic and tells me how he had been worrying about this for ages and he is glad I know now that he simply can't afford to get a gift.I said ok. Then he changes topic and says he could not meet me cos he had spent the night with one of his friends who has lost his wife to another man and he said how he had felt sorry for him. I wrote back..yeah that is v hard at least I ain't that type to bail.. ;-) in other words, aren't you lucky? so then he wishes me goodnight but his behaviour was weird. I don't know what to make of it. I hate the fact that I clearly love him more then loves me. Last yr he got me a gift so this year its plain depressing. Am surprised he didnt even give me a card. But hey such is life. What do others make of this?? I was really cool about it...but it kinda upset me a bit. I was cool about it cos we only recently got back together again :-( didn't want Christmas to cause yet another breakup!
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reader, kleinie  +, writes (22 December 2009):
Leave him. He doesnt deserve you; take your child and raise it but dont waste your time with someone who cant give you the time of day
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reader, Xolani  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Move on, cut your loses now before its too late. About the pregnancy you are financially independant so you will be able to raise it, if he can't buy you a card now what will happen when the child needs nappies. He is a looser leave him now, save your money for your child. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
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