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writes:Hello,I broke up with my ex bf 14 years ago (I am now 33 and he is 35). We were teenagers and we moved on, I saw other people and through a mutual friend I heard he has seen one or two but that I was his only real relationship. I feel I still love and care for him for some reason. Anyway, I have seen him maybe 3 times since we broke up, I would just randomly pop into his place and chat for an hour or so and that would be that. The last time I spoke to him was 6 years ago and last year I sent him an email to say hi and his reply was 'leave me alone. Stop trying to contact me'. I was kind of shocked as nothing bad has ever happened..except the break up 14 years ago when we were kids!Our mutual friend tells me nobody knows why he acts towards me like that, I can't figure it out!I sent him an email today asking what's wrong but any other advice would be great.We broke up just due to silly teenager arguments that's all.Thanks
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reader, sesesito +, writes (9 April 2011):
sesesito is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for that response and yes you are right on all accounts but...it's hard to put it aside as you say because we have one good mutual mate and whenever I see him, he talks about him so it's like he's kept fresh in my mind and I actually like hearing about him.
Yes he was very blunt but he was always like that. I think my pride is hurt more than anything at the fact that after soooo long, he can't be civil towards me. I don't get why though if it's been so long, HE can't get over it and be mates. Does that say something too??
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 It could just be that he's not someone who wants to remain friends with his exes or start anything up again, even if it is just a friendship. It was a bit blunt of him to just say "leave me alone, stop contacting me" and I'm not surprised you're shocked, but you should just leave him be as he's made it clear how he feels. I know it might hurt a bit because you still care about him, but just push the thought of why he said that aside, because you may never get your answer and you may as well leave it in the past because it's been 14 years, and like you said, you've moved on.
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