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writes:My ex BLOCKED me from a social network site... and I don't know why?He's been an ex for a year. It was a rough breakup. He left me the day I found out I was actually pregnant. He broke up with me in a text message.... He was also my first.The pregnancy hit me hard, it was a difficult one and I ended up losing my baby in August. We kept communication open, he said he would absolutely be there for me if I needed it. I appreciated that. There are no romantic feelings left for him, but occasionally I liked to look him up to make sure he was doing okay. We shared this really big thing together and looking him up and knowing he was good.... it made me feel good. I viewed his page a week ago and everything was well. I never emailed him or anything, the last time we spoke was a month or so ago and it wasn't even on this social network site, we deleted each other off of that way earlier in the year. Then I checked this morning before work and he was gone. I found it odd so I asked my friend if he came up for her - and sure enough he did.My question is... why? He doesn't know I viewed him periodically to make sure he was okay. There's no way to see visitors either. So why did he have to block me? It felt like such a stab in the heart to me. It's so unnecessary. To me if feels like nothing that we went through mattered.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 September 2013):
 WHY he didn't won't change what he did.
HE has blocked you... either he's done with you or wants you to be done with him.
I'm sorry for the loss of your baby but the truth is he did not do this to you.... I'm betting that he's over and done and he doesn't wait much brain time on this.
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reader, Jk101  +, writes (11 September 2013):
The only reason I end up blocking an ex on facebook it's because I still have feelings for him and want to move on. Remember that bocking someone means that both sides cannot view each others activities or stalk each other if they are not friends on FB. Don't take it hard on yourself. He probably didn't do it to upset you but to give himself time to recover and move on. He might have been viewing your wall as well more than you think. I do it all the time when am stalking my Ex too much and feeling sick to the stomach for doing it. But I end up unblocking him again which is stupid!! It's hard not to know how they are doing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 September 2013):
 My guess, he wants to move on. OR he wants YOU to move on.
Or he met someone new and don't want you getting hurt by seeing it on FB (or whatever social network).
It is hard to say why people do what they do at times. But maybe removing him from your life will help you heal, instead of the constant reminder?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): He blocked you because most people do that about their ex, whether it ended well or not, at some point eventually. It's been over a year, it was time.Why would you even bother wanting to check up on him? He left you the day you found out you were pregnant? How supportive and considerate on his part (not!)He was your first and he broke up with you via text message? Again, what a "prince". What girl would not want to check his facebook to see if he is ok or not. Especially when said girl is heartbroken, deflowered, left pregnant, and then very sadly loses the baby. In the past year, every time you checked up on him, he was doing fine. So accept that and move on. You can remember him as your first, but close that Chapter and learn from it.Be more discerning with the next guy you choose: someone who actually cares, doesn't just say it but shows it. Someone who uses protection. Someone who has the decency to make big decisions with you present, not via text.Why? because whatever you had, whatever you experienced with him, it's over. In time, you will heal, you will feel better and you will find someone better who treats you better too.
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