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writes:Quick question. My boyfriend had started new job and had taken the receptionist mobile number and was texting her when i wasn't about. I told him i knew and he was to put a stop to it cos there was no need for it. Today we got dropped off outside his work and i asked him for a kiss as i normally do when i leave him but he wouldn't- what do you think of that, it would only have been the receptionist that would have seen it. I feel hurt that he wouldn't. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): So he's texting the receptionist and he won't kiss you in front of her. What a cad! And forget about 'doing him' in the morning. If you do want to act desperate and 'do him', why don't you just hand over all your pride, self-respect and dignity, while you are at it too. Save your hard work and give your jaw muscles a break. Only give the 'morning treats ' for a guy who'll appreciate your efforts and already knows and cherishes you for the great woman you are. Giving this to this fellow, in order to 'keep him' is ridiculous. All you become is a caretaker of this relationship while he does what he darn well pleases, anyways.. Good lord, the things some people suggest, in order to keep a man from straying. Remember girls, we are not 'beggars' here...we have to choose men wisely who come into our life and we have to always "expect respect". When women/men attain value by attachment..a rather pitiful mindset occurs for some of them. They becomes lax about that person's glaring imperfections. Hun, you simply have a guy there, who has a fidelity problem..he lacks it. And he and the receptionist had 'something' going on and his ego was flying high. He's forgotten his commitment to you. This was a test in your relationship and he flunked, badly. So what do you do? I wouldn't wait around until the next time or the next available female who shows an interest in him. You have to make a decision here about whether what his behaviors have done to you and leave... or you can salvage this, by setting boundaries. Sit him down and calmly let him know that the trust has been badly shaken here and you won't tolerate this behavior. Simple as that. What's the end result? He may leave or he may stay and pull his socks up. You take a chance..a risk but with both options, you also keep your self-respect intact! Be strong, hun and good luck.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Hmmm he actually refused to kiss you when you asked? I mean if he forgot, that would be one thing but actively refusing? Does seem like he's presenting himself as single to her. Do you know whether he has really stopped texting her or if he's just hiding it from you? Try talking to him calmly and state what you think is happening. His reaction will most likely give him away if he's hiding something
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reader, willywombat +, writes (9 February 2007):
 I think you already know the answer to this in your heart. If something is not going on, then he wishes it was and wants to present himself as young, free and single.
Honey, confront him wihtout accusation and get it sorted before your dignity and self-esteem go down the swannie!
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reader, Angel-Face +, writes (9 February 2007):
 your right to be susbisos theres defently something going on ask the reseptionist whatz going on dont tell her your his girlfriend or she wont tell you nothing befriend her and if he is cheating on your dump him or get another love frisy then dump him good luck
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Just a hunch, but he might have told the receptionist that he doensn't have a girlfriend. If she then sees him kissing someone (you), she'd realize that he was lying. It appears that he wants to keep his options open, which doesn't bode well for you.
That's my hunch, but if I were you, I'd keep my options open too.
Good luck!
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (9 February 2007):
 you need to remind him what a great woman you are and you are a fantastic woman remember that, pull all the stops out, text him saying what you would love to do to him in the morning so he thinks bout you all day. if he dosent want to kiss you after that then step it up e-mail him in the day then as soon as he gets home lets him know you are crazy about him let him feel it.hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): It looks like something is going on between your boyfriend and the receptionist again. Ask him why he didn't kiss you in front of the receptionist and if he doesn't come up with any good excuse whatsoever then there's no point having him as your boyfriend anymore. Best thing to do is dump him and move on.
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