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writes:One of my best guy friends and I have known each other since the third grade. For an entire five days of the end of eighth grade, I'll admit, I thought he was hot. But that was it! After that, we didn't do/think/feel anything, didn't confess anything, just went on with our lives and being best friends for another five years. Well, it's now the end of our freshman year of college (we're in different colleges but we stay in contact so often that it's like we're always 'right there').December of 2007, he got a girlfriend that is three years our junior and dated her up until December of last year. I was also dating someone at the time (had been for a year at that point) and I dated my ex for two years. We broke up last December, literally three days before my best friend and his girlfriend broke up. We sincerely thought they were the ones for us. Well, after all that, I started visiting him and our other best friend quite often because I didn't want to feel completely depressed about the break-up.My ex was a jackass anyway - he emotionally and physically abused me and then decided to cheat on me (which is what made me finally walk away from him). Well, since then, my best friend has hated my ex like no one else and wants to kick his ass but it won't happen because my best friend lives an hour away from my ex and I.Anyways, last night, he asked me what he described as a hypothetical question, so I said 'Go ahead. Ask away.' He said if he were to ask me to have sex with him, would I go for it? I said 'Yes'. I don't regret giving him that answer because I would not hesitate one moment to have sex with him because I trust him like I trust no one else and we are very good friends and we've known each other since nearly forever. He told me that I've changed an unbelievable amount since freshman year of high school and that I have a kickin' body and a beautiful face. But then he also said he would never ever pressure me into anything, especially since we're best friends and best friends aren't supposed to think of each other that way.But I know he would never pressure me. That's not like him. But I would give myself to him, even though I've already lost my virginity (I've only had one sexual partner). My best friend, on the other hand, is still a virgin. But I would never pressure HIM into anything, either. I am wondering, though, if there are any underlying feelings in this? I mean, he basically told me last night that he likes me as more than a friend, but he didn't actually come out and say it.How should I interpret this whole situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): About three years ago I was in a very similar situation.I'd been best friends with a guy for about 6 years, except i'd always kind of had a crush on him.Anyway, one night out of the blue he asked me the same question. We'd had a few drinks, one thing lead to another, next thing i knew we had just lost our virginity.It was probably the most wonderful way to do it, for both of us. We totally trusted each other, and the love between us was very strong, even if it was just 'friend' love.I think if you want to do this you need to clarify whether you think it is 'just sex' or you would want more to happen between you and your friend. On one hand it could turn into a beautiful relationship together, on the other it may turn all awkward and you may lose each other.It's just a risk you have decide is worth it.As for your ex, steer well clear of him! He sounds like a jackass, and you are honestly worth so much more!XX:)
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