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41-50,
*ynaMarie
writes:I thought he roped the moon. I tell you what my ex made me if only for a moment believe that all of my dreams would come true; and then one day it changed and yet I still hurt.The first time he ever hit me was Christmas Eve, I remember it like it was yesterday I came home from the grocery store and the man standing before me wasn't my husband he was someone different. His posture, his voice everything was different and he hit me. Not just once but he continued to break dishes over my back as I cried. Our children hid in the kitchen cupboards as one stood in shock and watched the whole thing........It wasn't him; so I took him back. It just didn't make sense, I thought it was a freak accident. A one time event, but I was wrong.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Honey, as hard as it is, call the police on him. Don't threaten to do it...that'll clue him in...just do it.
Children who witness abuse like that usually grow up to become abusers themselves.
I know you are strong. I know you love him. I know he appears to be sincere.
Use your strength to your advantage-your responsibility is to your children first at this point.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Honey, it's going to be ok! you took him back because you were in shock and you didnt want to believe that was the man you married. you made a mistake, you were in shock, its ok. the thing is.....the fact that you took him back sends him the message that if he ever feels "besides himself" or 'out of control' like he did that day, he will be forgiven because thats what you showed him. when a child does something bad and then doesn't get punished will that child not repeat that behavior? you need to take a stand not just for yourself but also for your children. you set an example for your children. how you deal with this situation will teach your children a lot. what if he hits your kids next time? they aren't as tough as you...what if he really hurts them? Don't worry about the past, do something NOW! Move out now, go to a friend, family , shelter, you and your children can not and should not live with a man that takes his anger out on other people.
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