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writes:A few words before i start my story:1) i got to warn you that this post is going to get graphical!2) i have a lot of doubts , its going to be a long texti'm 22 yo , male, and i was a virgin until yesterday,i went out and hooked up with a friend's friend, we ended up going to a motel.Before i took her to the motel i was really excited , but once we got there my "little friend" started to show some signs of being a little tired. I really dont know why!We started making out and taking out our clothes and all was going allright, well i started to give her oral and it felt kind weird, but since she was enjoying it so much i kept going, but after a while my tongue started to hurt, the same happened to with my hand. i think its lack of physical preparation or something.First question, is it normal, do i need to excercice more?well after that i she started to giveme oral, and it didn't feel that great, at first it was normal, but then after a while my penis felt unconfortable, like when you try to forcefully masturbate just after you come you know.is this normal? am i oversensitive?well after that we put on a condom, and that kind made things go downhill, my penis would be only half hard and i started to get nervous,after a feel tryes i penetrated her, but it didnt feel that good, i was barelly able to tell i was inside, i don't know why.we tryed a couple of positions, but the condom would always slip and it didnt feel that good, and i would get really tired really quick.the time i got going, i couldnt orgasm, it was exactly the opposite of what i was afraid: being to fast. because generally i cum really easy when i masturbate, and i do enjoy women and sex because i always masturbate.although she was very nice to me, i feel the need to find out why i had those problems.you always helped me out in the past, and for that i'm thankfull, i'll be eagerly waiting for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): You just need practice.
Practice and experience with the same person, that is what makes it great.
Hopefully you will be able to read a bit, practice with her, and work on it in a more relaxed way in the future.
Make sure that you talk with her and let her know that you were afraid of being to fast, were nervous, and would like to try it again when you could. Also, no alcohol or drugs, they make it harder to work it out, not easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): As MugenTj said before, if you're not fully erect, it's hard to penetrate. Also, if you're not fully there, your penis may not fill out the condom giving it the tight fit it needs! It's also a bit dangerous if the girl is not using any other form of contraception... if the condom can slip off there's more chance of it coming off inside her - leaving the risk of pregnancy.
So next time you have sex, make sure you're fully erect.
Maybe your nerves took over when it came to getting down - just relax in each others company. Plenty of foreplay is a good idea too. You said your hand/tongue hurts after a while... but there are lots of other ways. Maybe set the mood with candles, music etc? Use things that turn you on. and most of all ENJOY IT!
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and my hand still gets sore when I pleasure him... I don't think it's anything to worry about. It's just like anything repetitive... it gets uncomfortable after a while. However, if you're really worried about it after a few more times, you could visit your doctor to rule out anything else.
Another thing could be that you're not physically attracted to the girl? I know some people may say it's shallow, but not everyone thinks with their penis... Why not try dating a girl, and letting things go from there?
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reader, MugenTj  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 First, Im wondering if this was her first time too.
When I perform oral for my gf, my tongue does hurt, only because one of my lower tooth turns side-way, such that it will hit the bottom of my tongue. But it's nothing to worry about. You might have a different reason entirely. Otherwise, it can be tired, depending on how long you perform oral. Same with your hand.
I feel like I shouldn't comment on the condom, because I don't use it. But I can tell you that when you aren't erect fully, it's difficult to penetrate (especially she has a tight vagina), and when you do, the friction might cause some burning on the penis.
No orgasm? of course it's different when you use your hand (and knowing how to make yourself feel good). likewise with different partners...Do explore to see what work for you. The first time ain't meant to be great.
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reader, eek  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 its probably just because you was nervous. If you get together with her again. Tell her your nervous and just relax make it fun and take it slow.
As far as condoms go i used to use some called feather light. They give you a lot more feeling. Or if you need more stimulation try something like tingle condoms.
Just like anything practice makes perfect. :-) you will get there!
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