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writes:I used to be friends with this guy online for about three years. He was a nice friend and a great way to pass time, and we grew closer, though in a strictly platonic sense. We were very similar in personalities, headstrong, stubborn and as a result often got into clashes and heated arguments. Our friendship managed to remain strong though. With time, I secretly began to wish that he'd like me. It was not that I liked him, mind you, but I wanted him to fall for me so that his ego which he expected me to massage up every now and then (my refusal leading to fights) would take a beating before me. Then, one night, I dreamed that he had met me at a shopping mall with his family, and his mother telling me that he liked me and wanted my hand in marriage. The dream felt good, and then I woke up, feeling weird, and hopeful. That day, a common friend told me that he liked me. I was over the moon. Then a few days later, it was accidentally revealed that he actually liked that common friend of ours, and she was trying to hook me with him by telling me that lie about him liking me.My hope was dashed and I gradually broke off all contact with him and her. I'd even posted about it here in Cupidorg.Anyway, its been over eight months since I last talked to him, and had sort of forgotten about the whole episode. I didn't even remember him much after a couple of months had passed. But yesterday night, I had a dream which left me flustered all over again.I dreamt that I'd run into his house somewhere, and he asked me to come help him do some chores. I grudgingly agreed. We sat on the floors doing the work (something to do with Academics), and then, when it ended, I got up, feeling irritated. But then, as if on cue, he said to me, "Do you really think I never liked you? See what I had bought for you as a gift", and then he pulled out a white, glamorous dress for me and handed it to me.I started melting with joy, and then the dream ended. As soon as I knew it was a dream, I felt the same crushing feeling that I'd experienced after the previous dream (about him proposing for marriage).My question is, why did I get this dream now, when I'd totally forgotten about him, and even the occasional memory of his did nothing to me? This dream has thrown me off, does it have some significance?
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (5 February 2015):
 Because this has been sitting for a few days I'll give you some general dream advice.
If you have a dream that stands out, or that repeats there is a possibility that your subconscious mind is trying to communicate with your conscious mind. A dream dictionary like the one found at Dreammoods.com can help you in deciphering the message.
In general a dream about an exboyfriend is comparing a current situation to the previous relationship and is usually a warning that you may be falling into a trap.
I'm pretty 'sure that the white dress would have a different meaning in your culture than it would in Western culture. Here it would be about marriage, there it may just symbolize purity.
The best thing for you to do is to write down all the most important symbols in the dream. Then go to a dream dictionary (better if you find one written for your culture) and read the meanings until you find something that feels right.
I would almost be sure that the dream is not telling you that you miss him. More likely there is some unfinished business in your mind / emotions.
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