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writes:Dear Cupidi cheated on my girl friend, and i hate myself for it. i'v hurt the love of my life so bad, iv broken hers and my heart, and the thought of life with out her is killing me. last night (new years eve) i kissed this girl i didnt know and my friends girlfriend phoned my grlfriend and told her that id kissed this girl and another girl befor. i kissed this other girl months ago and forgt all about oping that no1 would find out, but now she has! and i cant belive what kind of man iv become. my girlfriend called me that night and basicly broke down on the phone and i tryed to denie it and said it was all lies. but this morning i told her the truth, she felt so betryed! and i cant blame her, but why do i need to lose something so so special for me to relise that im nothng with out her? and nw that its all out im sort of glad, just wish it could of ome from me, and not the way it did. wev talked a bit since and all i can say is im sorry and that i love her but she says she doent know if we could ever trust me and that she cant promise she could be with me but that i can try ske it up. it might sound alot over a kiss but we were so in love its killing her! i fell like shit and i cant begin to imagen how she fells. what should i do? i realy cant be ith out her! Reply to this Question
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (2 January 2009):
It will take some time for her to be able to trust you again. Whether it was just a kiss, even if it was just a hug, it was kinda still cheating. I agree with pinkipod too, don't bribe her with any gifts of any kind, or that will just make the problem worse. Show her and prove to her that she can trust you again, thats if your seriously sorry about this and aren't going to do anything to hurt her again. Because she obviously really loves you and as far as I can tell, you love her too. So prove to her that she can trust you again, and have a face to face talk with her, not over the phone! Mkay? Email me and tell me how everything goes! :) Hope it works out!
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reader, pinkipod109 +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Obviously you two really love each other.
Here's what you need to do: go to her and BEG her to take you back. And I'm serious when I say that if you really love her you WILL get on your hands and knees, even in front of other people. Show her she'll always be the only one, and don't try to bribe her with flowers or jewelry or chocolates (even the REALLY good kind, like See's. yum) . She'll say she might not ever be able to trust you again, but tell her that she can trust you and that if you can get another chance you can work your way up to trust. Maybe even in the beginning you can call it probation (=D).
Sorry, just trying to lighten the mood a little. Feel better. You made an honest mistake and if you've learned from it, like you should, then you'll never be in this situation again.
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reader, justjones09  +, writes (1 January 2009):
No one is perfect. But you really seem to love this girl and you really seem to regret what you did.
Speaking from experiance, It hurts a girl terribly badly to be heart broken. Its a pain that no one should ever have to go through. But, we do.
If you really want her back Focus all you attention on her. (Dont stalk her)
For example, If you and the guys are just hanging out, tell them your sprung or something. If you dont shut up about her, word will get around to her about it. Once she knows this from not only you but other people as well, she may see the light and the seeds of trust can be planted again.
but seriously. I hope you learned. If you rthis serious about this girl you truly need to mean it and commit to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Actions have consequences, as you're learning the hard way. Trust is a gift, and even though it can be repaired, there will always be a scare. Some people might say, "it's just a kiss" -- but that action demonstrates a fundamental lack of respect for your GF, let alone the fact that you are throwing salt on the wound by kissing someone else in front of other people, you idiot. If you really love this girl like you say you do, better grow up, kiddo, because someone else will take your place, and you'll soon be the one getting the phone call or text msg, "Hey - your GF is humping some guy in the next room!" How would ya like 'dem apples. Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from them. That's how people grow.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Dear bro, Yah I understand your situation. It’s like the worst time of your life. She is also upset maybe she is now feeling like hell time of her life.A suggestion for you - Go to your girlfriend, bow yourself and beg her back. And promise her in front of all that you will never do this type of work again. (I hope it will work)It’s your 1st mistake so request her to forgive you and give you one more chance. If she can agree then please be honest, loving, caring and always make it special for your girlfriend because she IS special to you.My english is not good enough so don’t mind if my words hurt youBest of luck Take careArianz
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reader, roadman +, writes (1 January 2009):
 If you love each other then you'll both get over it.. girls can get really pissed about these matters and hold it against you for a long time!Been there and done that.
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