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writes:Before my guy called it off with me after a month,he come out with saying he did not want the hassle?what did he mean by this?? he had a bad relationship in the past in which it got a bit nasty with her hurting him but he still has to have contact because of the child, i told him i would never hurt him like that, but he still come out with the hassle thing,what did he mean please help thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): This doesn't necessarily mean that you've hassled him. I think he'd just rather be on his own for a bit, and not have to worry about a girl, and just get to go out with the lads, and flirt, and not really have to... care...
I know it sounds a bit strange, I mean, why would he? But he's still young, but once you hit 30s it seems a lot older than your 20s! He probably just wants a bit of fun.
Try not to take it too much to heart, just realise that he's just not ready to settle down. Good luck :]
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Maybe there hasn't been enough time since his bad break up from thus said woman who he has a child with and having to still deal with a shitty "ex" he doesn't have the mental capacity to deal with another woman right now. He has a bad attitude and it's no fault of yours. Men do this sometimes after they've been wronged. We all do it to a point. He probably needs a couple of years by himself before plunging back into another relationship. He's probably feeling angry and bitter over the last one. It's not that a relationship is riddled with "hassles" but it takes work. You have to think of the other person and play nice. And to some people, work equals hassle. Maybe in a few years he'll be the ideal mate. But for now, give him the space he needs to work through his angst. Good luck.
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