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writes: I've really liked this boy at my school for nearly a year now, but we haven't spoken much. I became friends with him in september as he seems like such a lovely, funny guy.Last night i was at friends party/gathering and i spoke to him quite alot, we flirted(but he flirts with everyone)Another guy came onto me but i really didnt want to get with him so i whispered to him to help me get away from him he said to 'come and sit next to me then' so tactfully i went to the bathroom and then went and sat next to him after that. He then told me that he had, had a word with the guy that was coming onto me, he didn't tell me what he had said though. I sat next to him and absent mindedly rested my head on his shoulder, soon we were kissing and cuddling. I didnt really want to go any further with him than kissing and cuddling as i wasnt comfortable with him just yet. So, for the rest of the night i was in his arms, holding his hand, dancing with him infront of people.. all the things we would do if we were in a relationship. (we had both drunk but not too much, we were certainley not drunk)But then this morning, i moved away from him to go outside with the group, we all came outside for some fresh air, but he completely ignored me, he wont make eye contact or talk or sit next to me...Please help me understand what happened?
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (5 February 2012):
 First of all, at 13-15, you are WAY too young to be drinking! Don't drink anymore, as it causes you to lose inhibitions are in place to protect you!
Second of all, if the guy was the same age as you, he's not ready to have any sort of relationship, yet his hormones are starting to kick in. They call that "the sap starting to rise". Part of him is man, part of him is boy.
Girls mature faster, and he's not mature enough to consider what to do with feelings. He's just now getting the hang of his newfound sexual urges! You've been looking at him for a year, and remember, he hasn't had a year to crush on you, so he's not where you are emotionally. You're hyper-analyzing his every action and word.
Just relax, don't drink!, and let thing progress if they do. If they don't, don't obsess (right, easier said than done, eh?), because you're still growing and grappling with feelings too!
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (5 February 2012):
boys this age are just being like that all the time, after what has happened the other night he is in sort of "bak off" stage, when he'll simply.....back off a bit.
right now i can't tell if he likes you back, you need to wait a while. let's see how he acts when you meet on a party next weekend. if he starts a conversation, does not avoid you you're on the right path:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): He's just not that into you.
Also, there is a lot of complexity when it comes to alcohol, and how people act when they are vs are not drinking. PLEASE realize this, and do not fall into the trap of trying to drink more with him so that you might feel a little spark again. It might or might not happen, but you're going to continue drinking too much after that. Besides, you want someone who is going to recognize you all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): He is uncomfortable and not sure what his feelings are towards you. He thinks maybe he committed to you by his action and he shouldn't have.
I say, you both were drunk, you both flirted and enjoyed snuggling and what not. Not the end of the world.
Guilt should not make one feel obligated to date another.
Dating someone is about two people having the same feelings for one another.
I'd tell him how you feel, thank him for last night and tell him you like him alot, but understand if he needs time to think on things. It happened fast.
Either way, you are going to have to be happy with him as a friend or keeping distant.
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