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writes:Okay so my best (male) friend came over. And he's been over my house about 3 times. The first time we just watched tv like everything was normal. The second day he was in my room and suddenly grabbed me and said he wanted to bone me and he kept it up for a good 5 minutes then gave up. But then the third time he came over he fingered me and we were dry humping or dry sex, whatever it's called. Here's the thing... He has a girlfriend. I really want to tell her but I can't because he made me swear not to tell anyone. Does that count as cheating? Also after he left he said to me that we should forget it happened and not speak of it. So now I feel really lousy and crappy. What should I do? I don't really know why he said it was a mistake when he was the one who started it and wouldn't stop. He's my best friend and I do like him in a romantic way but I don't know what to do. I want him to do it again. Please help!
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reader, bby23  +, writes (12 June 2011):
Well I think he did that becus he was horny and sex was just on his mind.he said it was a mistake becus at that time and moment he wanted some. Just imagined u guys had sex, after sex.. He wouldve also thought its a mistake. In my opinion, u should avoid it, u wouldn't want an awkward feeling wit ur friendship since u said he's ur bestfriend. Also if u like him or want him that way, tell urself its not worth it becus he has a girlfriend and would have done something wit another girl, just what u experienced. You wouldn't want to feel used after.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Yes, you were cheating. Rather, you were a willing accomplice to his cheating on his girlfriend. He was your good friend. You knew he had a girlfriend before he "started things with you".
When he told you he wanted to "bone" you, you should have sent him home to his girlfriend. Now what are you going to tell his girlfriend? She'll know he's a slime, and she'll think you're one too for having a big hand in helping wreck their relationship.
And face it - your real reason whether you admit it or not for wanting to tell her is to get her out of his life so you can have him all to yourself, plus you want to hurt him for rejecting you. There is nothing noble in that, and the backlash to your reputation will be too high a price.
The only real action to take for you at this time would be to let him break it off with you, and break off the relationship AND the friendship. Stay far away from him and next time, have higher standards and choose a guy with a lot better culture, more integrity and is more romantic than "I want to bone you.". YUCK.
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reader, Sandys Advice  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Hi, I dont think you should not tell his girlfriend because he will probably deny it anyway and it will only look like that your jealous and making it up sometimes you dont get any thanks for outing these sort of things, I dont know what he is at by starting this whole thing by wanting to "bone" you then you's kiss and dry hump eachother and then tells you to forget it happen did he want to see could he get you into bed easy to see if you like him? it sounds to me he could be playing games, my advice would be to stay friends with this guy and don't do anything else with eachother because it seems to me like your the only one who is gonna get hurt if he really liked you he would have said it to you in a nicer way than i want to bone you stay clear hun, i hope my advice helps x
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 he's a dirtbag. he has probably lost interest coz he never got full sex from you. he has a GF. you should do the same as he is doing and forget about it. he is not someone that will give you any sort of a good relationship (unless you want to be used that is). i feel sorry for his girlfriend. move on and find someone better
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): Do you really want to be in a relationship or romantically involved with a guy who has so little respect for his girlfriend?? Of course its cheating, how would you feel if you were with a guy and he did that to some other girl?? you would feel betrayed, hurt and angry. You should tell this girl what kind of guy she is going out with so she can move on to someone who will have more respect for her. He has taken advantage of your friendship and crossed the line, dont let him over step the mark again.. Good luck :)
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