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female
age
41-50,
*halombe
writes:hi, i think i have put muyself back into a situation that i had an opportunity of getting out of. I have been in a relationship with a guy for about eight years now. when it started off we were in the same country and he wasnt treating me too well. So we started of on a rocky start and one point i was so miserable that i just didnt look forward to any day and everytime i told im he would tell me i'm difficult and i complain too much. anyway i decided maybe he didnt love me so i started getting attention from some other guy. we werent going out but i prefered spending time with him. My man didnt like it understandably and i told him why i was doing it and how he was treating me. then he said maybe we should break up and we agreed to. we were both miserable when we were apart so he asked if we could try again. at this point i found a job in another country and he was ok with the fact that it would be a long distance thing. We sms and cal eachother all the time. i went home recently and we spent time together. he told me that i am difficult, complain too much and we never chat anymore and when i told him that i have trust issue he told me he trusted me and also that even if he was cheating i wouldnt know so i would just have to trust him. anyway, i returned to work so it was long distance again. last night i called him and he told me that he went to chat at his brothers house and he is now going to drop his cousin off and is on his way home. i asked him to message me when he gets home and he said ok. Then i waited and he wasnt texting so i called again and he told me he was out playing pool. I mean why did he tell me if he was going home when he wasnt? should i tell him that i was hurt and thought he didnt wanna tell me the truth or is this something that guys do and i should understand?and my mind shouldnt wander? i sent him a message saying i didnt like it and he just said he will respond later? should i just let this go? it hurts tho and my minde is going crazy thinking he was out witha girl and thats why he didnt wanna say. or was it just an innocent mistake? I love him so much and he says he loves me too so much. please help. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): How long does it take to make a 4n call or send a msg? Well i don't think it's a man thing. sorry about this but maybe he is just trying to keep his distance again or maybe he was with another woman. it's very hard to be on a long distance relationship especially when you have trust issues. One thing about men they will always say they love you, they know it's a sensitive word to a woman that opens up a soft spot. the fact that he told you if he was cheating you wouldn't know tells me he is not reliable.
good luck!
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