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writes:'Hate' is a strong word but right I 'hate' my life..I don't know from where to begin my hands are shivering as I type this..I met this wonder guy about a year ago at a french class I was taking,over the weeks we grew closer to each other he asked me out on a date and we have been inseperable ever sincee!!everything was going great he told me he was working with his dad at a corporate firm I used to visit his place or he would come to mine!!and we had a very passionate yet fun sex life..he would bring something new to the table each day..But the only thing I found wierd about him was he used to hid his phone,computer when I used to ask him he said he is a very private person and doesn't like it someone touches his phone and I had no reason to doubt and I let it go..a few days ago his phone wldnt work so he got a new one and he said he'l get the old phone fixed and use that too,anywys when I was at his place I was searching for my charger and I saw his phone hidden under his clothes in the wardrobe I plugged it in and to my horror there were text msgs from a girl saying 'its a group sex scene not a boy-girl' I dint understand at once when I read thru and put 2 and 2 together did I figure he is a 'porn star'..they called him by this funny name and I googled that name only to find his videos online..I cried and cried and had noone to go to,and this guy I wanted to marry..I was soo scared I went to the doctor and got myself checked luckily I dint have any std's or anything..since then I haven't spoken to him I packed up and left!!I can't let him see me this weak when I talk to him I want to be strong,I want to scream,shout,yelll..why did he play with me,my feelings,my emotions..!!I'm soo heart broken I feel like I have nothing to give anyone anymore but I know for sure I want to slap this guy for the pain he caused me..!how do I get strong and face this guy!?any advise right now will help me agony aunts..!
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reader, UnstoppableHips  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 If I were you, I would go and talk to him! I wouldn't torture myself! Trust me, hiding your emotions and feelings will make things worse! If you really love him, you know, everybody deserves a second chance... You can make him change and let him be a good guy instead of being a porn star... You'll be doing something nice to yourself and to him and to the world! But of course, you have to be sure if he really loves you :)
Nothing deserves your tears... Even if the guy is a prince, he ain't worth your pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): Im so sorry for ur pain! I understand ur pain b/c believe me I have been there! It hurts like hell when someone plays u like a fiddle. Its still fresh so u r going 2 want to do all those things listed. Time heals all wounds. Just don't allow it 2 make u bitter towards men r relationships. If u feel like u need 2 seek counseling just to talk out ur feelings then do so. Do whatever u need to constructively to move forward past ur hurt. I know that ur friend tried 2 hide that part of his life out of fear that he will not b accepted. U have 2 b honest about those things in the beginning. Either u would have accepted it or not. At least u would have had the opportunity to wrap ur head around the idea. U didn't have that. He lied to you! Allow urself time 2 heal start to enjoy urself ALONE don't jump into anything right now and enjoy hanging with friends that really care about you. I wish u well.
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reader, G_D  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 what you can do for your good future is to completely forget about him and the things that relates with him .. things that reminds you about him or what he'd done with you !
just cut that part from your life that you've met that guy spent your time , feelings shared.. everything !!
firstly think to save you, your life, and your future !
and after that you can think how to hurt him or any bad for him .. but firstly save you .. I mean get rid of depression .. try to be happy .. don't stay alone (if it reminds to about him)
try to spend the time out with your good friends.. do everything that you like to do.. most important is try to make YOU happy .. :)
Best of LuCk :)
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