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30-35,
anonymous
writes:HiAbout a month ago I got in touch with a guy from my old school. We went to the same school system until high school but, we still live local to each other. In fact he lives down my street. Anyway, I was thinking on a friend basis (even though I used to like him)when I msged him. He got back to me quickly and we made some small talk. Then he said that we should hang out some time. I said that I am usually always busy with school but that we should definitely try. But, he answered saying that we couldn't tell his girlfriend. I don't talk to guys much. I asked him what he meant and he said that his girlfriend would feel maybe intimidated because I was smart and pretty and nice. At this point I thought that he was joking with me because we havent talked for 2 years. we were never good friends and I'm used to guys being idiots and/or ignoring me. He told me he wasnt joking and he asked if I would consider dating him. I honestly began to think that this was all a prank or something. But, I said that my parents would disown me if I dated before they said I could (which is in lik 2 months). He asked, what if we waited? I said if your really serious about this, then I will consider. So, we exchanged cell numbers and txted back and forth a bit. Every time I asked him whats up he would tell me that he was talking or texting his girlfriend. I wasnt bothered by it, if that was his goal. After a week he asked me if I was going to this football game. I said that I wanted to but I had a lot of things to do. He said that I should definitely try to make it, and he was going. It sounded like to me that he wanted to see me. So, the night of the game we txt back and forth trying to find each other. I was honestly looking but couldnt find him. Im not sure if he was looking but, he made it sound like he was. By the time that I had to leave I'm about to give up, when I see him finally not far away. He had a girl around his chest..which I knew was the girlfriend. I was kinda mad but, at the same time, how were we going to talk with her there? we couldnt. however, when I saw him something sparked. Im not sure what it was but my heart skipped a beat and my stomach flipped. I realized that I still liked him and I didnt even know if this whole dating thing was a trick or not. I was confused. I txted him over the holiday wished him to have fun and such. Then last weekend I msged him saying hey and he told me to shut up. Thats all he said. I sent him a msg during this week telling him I was confused and that we needed to talk. He not only didnt answer my msg but, his account was deleted yesterday. I'm sorry for the long story but, I really need help. Im hurt and sooo confused but I really like him. What do I do now? Where do I go for here?
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reader, mz_lani1 +, writes (11 December 2008):
 Baby girl..
he obviously was playing games with u. from the looks of it, he still wanted to be with his girlfriend but he couldnt juggle the two of u. now u kno better not to be with someone that wants to date on the side..thats the same as CHEATING..
Dont call him, dont text him, dont do nothing..cuz it was clear enuff for what he had did at the game..
Now do u think his girlfriend knows about him cheating-NO..and do u want to be in her shoes-No, u dont..u can do better. and keep goin to skoo..n focus..stop feeling confuse n negative about the situation..u are a smart girl and continue to be smart..u'll find someone that will love u for u n not play games with u, someone that will also respects u n luvs u back..
Good Luck and Happy Holidays..
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