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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i am 31 and was dating a man 37 for almost 3 months we had been talking about getting married discussing our roles identifying our compatibility. we both thought we were very compatible we were in love just before our breakup he began to have money problems and seemed to be depressed he often talked about his deceased father and how hard his life had been since he passed. he always begged me not to leave him. he became so down and his behavior changed. i asked if he wanted to break up he said for now... he just didnt have the energy for relationship he continued to call. one day i called him out of concern and he said it just not going to work i cant give you what you deserve there is alot going on and my feelings have changed two days ago that he married last month we have only been broken up 3 months... why did he do this?
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reader, KEY2URHEART32 +, writes (13 July 2008):
Chances are that he was already with this woman. I don't believe that he met and married a woman within three months of breaking up with you. This guy lured you into thinking that he wanted to marry you as distraction from what was really going on. He issues with money is related to him planning his wedding...some men play on women emotions and so he gave you the sad story of loosing his father and having a hard life ever since it happened (he's a grown man...not saying that he can't still be grieving the death of his father..but depending on the age he was when his father passed make one think if this guy is just putting on an act.His behavior change because he was getting closer to getting married. How is it that you mention that he "just did not have the energy for a relationship"and the three month later not only form a relationship wth another woman and then marry her...it's BS...he was engaged to be married while he was with you...unfortunately some men really like their cake and eat it too...I don't know you or him...but count yourself lucky because he could have dragged you through it...If he cheated while engage to her he will cheat during their marriage.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Possibly was with her all along? Highly odd if he met someone and married them within 3 months. Although to meet someone and be talking about love and marriage by 3 months, is a bit excessive too. So maybe he is one of those fast movers! But the odds are stacked against his marriage lasting if he actually did marry her that quick after meeting. I reakon you had a lucky escape.
C xxxxx
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