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writes:I was kind of seeing this guy until about a month ago and it's now been a month since we saw each other (he was out of town for a couple of weeks in that time). I know if he wanted to see me he would make it happen so I'm just wondering how it can be that he spent so much time with me, I felt like he really enjoyed my company but now doesn't care about seeing me while I really miss him! Why would someone just vanish like that? Nothing physical ever happened, we were just developing a friendship first so it's not like he lost interest after sex. I know I'm a great catch in many ways and I felt I was a little out of his league in some ways too so it's even harder to take the rejection! And he's deleted his profile from the dating website we met on implying that he's probably met someone... I don't get how some people find it so easy to get into relationships (he had been on the website for only a few weeks) while I really struggle to find someone I'm interested in firstly and then when I am, they don't seem to stick around! Sorry for the vent but I'm just trying to understand why he doesn't feel the same about me as I do about him - I truly felt a connection... Reply to this Question
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reader, emontez12 +, writes (6 March 2016):
i feel when you have sex with some one to early it really does mean that you've peaked with that person. sometimes when its not the right time the experience is not taken as seriously. not to say that the feelings weren't real because im most certaint they were. but he obviously didn't get the feelings you have so id just appreciate, learn from the experience and move on.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 March 2016):
 He probably did feel you were out of his league and therefore wanted to be with a girl he feels more comfortable with. He could have vanished for many reasons. Many people on dating sites are on there, while they are not even ready for relationships or are boyfriend material. They are alone, they want to kill that emptiness inside. It's possible that he only wanted sex and he knew he doesn't have what it takes to be a good boyfriend. So he deleted the profile thinking, "forget it, very few women just want sex for sex's sake." It's easy to get into relationships, it's easy to manufacture a sense of connection. What's difficult is to maintain that connection or to use actions to prove the words you say. It's not something about you, or bad luck. Loving relationships, and long standing ones too, are hard to find. They can be elusive. They don't happen just because you are pretty, successful, don't chase, and delay sex. It's a combination of being the right person, doing the right thing, and most importantly, the availability of decent guys out there.
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