A
female
age
30-35,
*hampilyn
writes:MOD NOTE: Please put the link to your other question in so that we can catch up. Doesn't make sense without it.**************if you have been following my questions,http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ex-professor-and-i-have-grown-quite-close.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-in-love-with-my-professor.htmlthis is the latest happening. I don't understand why he only told me that he has a girlfriend this friday. he did not plan to tell me, but it just happened. I was asking him if he was the professor my other professor went with, then he said no, i went there alone. so i asked him what he did there and he said "actually... my girlfriend lives there...", so of course, i pretended to smile and ask questions. etc.I don't get it. it's like he led me on. approaching me, replying to my messages, spotting me in the crowd, talking to me for a long time, KNOWING that I LIKE him. this is almost the third month that he knew, and he had so MANY chances to tell me, but he didn't.... so at night, I gave him a text. it went on like this..."good evening! i'm sorry if i've been perceiving things wrong. i know that you know what i've been doing. much as i want to gain deeper friendship with you, i know that it isn't possible anymore. please don't be surprised if you won't be seeing me as much as before. still thanks for being nice and accommodating :)"then he replied"i would like to think perhaps we could be good friends, but i guess, from where I'm at now, no more than that. i leave it up to you. :)"so my reply "yes. we can be good friends. good night :D"at he replied "Goodnight, (insert my name)."I don't get him. Yes, it's clear that friends are all we ever could be, but what I don't get is that why it took him this long to tell me. as I analyze his message, well, is it possible that he liked me too? yet not enough to actually ruin his life...well, he's 33, i'm 20he's a prof, i'm a studenthe has a girlfriend, who he's been with for 6 years, though now they only see each other like, once a moth or every two months even. and bec. of circumstances, maybe they'll get married about 3 years later.so i'm asking, did he lead me on? I gave him LOTS of chances to turn me down... why did he tell me, only now? what do you think..i feel like i'm just asking for consolation...
View related questions:
has a girlfriend, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, violets  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Hi, wow. i to can't understand y men do this. It can leave one to think he has lead u on or he thought about having sumthing with u then backed down. this has also happened to me & he told me later on he has a girlfriend, after he gave me his number & we tx & even talked on phone. i liked ur ms to him.
A
female
reader, kitty_3  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 most likely-- though, of course, i wasn't actually there. but he did seem like he was trying to get close.
i understand your situation though. i didn't know until 6 or 7 months. like, ok???
i wish i could help you more, but i can hardly help myself! good luck :)
...............................
|
