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writes:Hi there wondering if you can help with this situation that is really bothering me i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and so deeply in love with him he had his issues as do we all but as he lost his mother and didn't have much family he begun too push me away even though i tried too be there for him i think he resented me a little as i didn't know what he was going through although i tried too understand!!!i was deeply in love with him and would of done anything for him and still would although we have still remained friends and it is a year down the line and he is asking for me back i really don't know what too do as it was a messey break up and i got my heart broken in the process i am frightened of that happening all over again when we split up i was seriously on the verge of a break down as he did and said some real horrible stuff too me i know most people make out they are innocent but i really did nothing but try and be there for him!!!Anyway i don't want too bang on and i will get too the point!!!One day we were in his flat and we were having an argument and he stormed out and said he was going too the pub so that left me in his place on my own and i know its wrong but i started too snoop as how he was acting of late was very suspicious.Anyways i came too his cupboard i opened it and out fell about 15 pairs of womens shoes all in a size 10's(his foot size) they were all clean not been wore outside.I tried asking him what they were doing in his cupboard but he wouldn't answer me maybe i'm extremely naieve i don't know!!I thought maybe they were another womans but if that was the case she had large feet for a female and she had left her entire shoe collection at his house im wondering if others can give me there oppinion on this?Also i wondering what too do with the situation now as he keeps telling me he loves me and he misses me i'm 21 years old and he's 27 I do deeply care for him but im very frightened of getting hurt again!!Any advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated thanks .x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Hi there thankyou for your answers I have checked his cupboard and other places in his flat for womans clothing and anything else but there was nothing else but these shoes!!!I have tried asking him but he won't answer me he changes the subject it gets really frustrating for me as i'm not the kind of person too judge it hurts me as he obviously hasn't got the trust and confidence in me too tell me!!!I do not know whether this is a question of his sexuality because he is a very butch male and has never had a problem with me sexually i have tried leaving my stilettoes on he never made no commenr but i feel that he enjoyed it!!I hate him not sharing things with me as i tell him everything!!maybe the whole appeal of this fantasy is that only he knows about it that makes it more appealing i don't know he is so hard too read as he is such a closed book!!!Any more advice or anyone with simular experience would be greatly appreciated as i'm at a loss with this guy!!Thanks so much i really appreciate it!!.x.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Did you look in his closet or dresser to see if he had any gowns, nighties, or other female apparel? He might just like to strut around his flat with the shoes on, or he might be a full blown cross-dresser. If he won't tell you, then there's a good chance he's got a big secret. He might have some other secrets he's not letting you in on.
As for getting back together again, I think he needs to be straight with you (no pun intended).
I'd tread slowly and carefully if I were you.
Good luck!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 I used to date a boy who always told me how much he like my sandals and stilettos so I joked he could steal them from my closet, he looked serious about it and he asked me to tried them on, he also had the theory that all girls are bisexual so darling naybe it's just a sexual phantasy or the way he is, I do not hink it's a problem if u can both have a normal relationship apart from this, try askin him to have sex wirh u with them on, is it so important for u?
it it is maybe u should look for a different man
good luck
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