A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've always had relationship problems, because I was diagnosed with bipolar about 5 years ago. When I met my last boyfriend, I was just coming off of some medication that makes me very snappy until it clears my system. I explained to my ex boyfriend some of the things he might experience with my bipolar, before we got too far into the relationship. We were together for a short amount of time, a little under two months. He told me he loved me not even a month into our relationship. I told him back, because I honestly feel like I do love him. He seemed to accept me for the person I am and said there was absolutely no way anything could ever make him leave me. The past few weeks have been kind of rough for us, I've been snappy due to some really stressful things going on in my life that he if fully aware of. I also kind of showed some jealousy towards his brothers girlfriend. Anyway, around 1:30pm on Saturday, I guess my ex decided he had enough and said he needed a night apart. I accepted that, and asked if he wanted to end the relationship, and he said no. Today is Monday, and I have yet to hear from him. My cell phone is shut off, so I can only receive incoming calls, and he knows this. I know he's not hurt, because he logged onto him MySpace yesterday. As of yesterday, his status still shows "in a relationship." I tried calling his house phone and his brothers cell phone yesterday from my roommates telephone and there were no answers or call backs. I have no idea what's going on, because he introduced me to all of his family, he met all of my friends, and my friends can't understand why he would do this, because it's not in his character. I sent him an email today and told him I guess this is goodbye, and he should have atleast told me he wasn't interested in seeing me anymore. I don't know if or when he will read it, but I asked him not to respond. I feel like any additional communication from him "confirming" what I already know will crush me even more. Yet I feel like I need closure. Why in the world would someone do this to another person? I'm at a loss.
View related questions:
crush, jealous, my ex, myspace, roommate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Ditto.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): You sound from your question as though you feel that your periodic snappiness is not really that big of a deal because he understands that you're not being yourself etc.... but I wonder if you realise how it feels as a man at the receiving end of such behaviour.When my girlfriend is snappy at me, even just a little, it takes me a while to get over it. It's WAY worse than being hit. I'm well aware that her snappiness is not her normal behaviour, but it makes no difference - it really hurts.After she's been snappy with me over an extended period, I have an urge to get away; and when I do get away I feel a great sense of relief.The thing that makes me return is that I have a large number of good memories of what she's like when she's not being snappy. In your case, perhaps there aren't that many such memories. Perhaps he left, fully intending to return, and found he got a great sense of relief.You really need to talk to him about it though. If you can't get through on the phone, then go round to see him. Respect his wishes, but explain that you need to understand what went wrong.He really is being a coward in not coming clean with you though!
...............................
|
